Is it time to give up on my marriage?

Question

I have been married for a little over two years. Not long after we got married my husband was diagnosed with MS. Since then he has become more and more distant to the point of not giving me any affection whatsoever. We used to be so close, and I know it's not his fault, but I'm still young and I have been sleeping alone since January. We are basically good friends who have children together. I have tried everything to get close to him, but he just gets irritated with me. As much as I love him I'm so scared that I will now have to spend the rest of my life lonely. We have two beautiful children that we both love more than anything. I don't want to hurt any of them, but I am hurting so much myself. I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

very sorry. Similar situation. Don't want to leave my husband because I don't want to hurt my parents. But to give you the advice, talk to him. You should never be alone, find some girlfriends. But if you really need a husband, you should talk to him and bring everything into the table. Then tell him clearly what you want and can he help you to fulfill them. If not, don't be harsh, leave him. That should be your last option when you can not just take it anymore.  

Answer 2

go to therapy, if he has ms he probably has insurance, my insurance covers it and it's a $15 copay, not as expensive as everyone thinks but worth it if you want to save your marriage

Answer 3

If you have a church that you attend maybe you'll want to speak with your pastor about counseling. "All things are possible through God". If you don't have a church then you may want to find one that offers marriage counseling. In the mean time "Pray" God answers prayers.

God Bless.

Answer 4

You really need to share your feelings with him. If he won't change than maybe you might come up with some other kind of arrangement. It's not typical but it works for some. Good luck to you.  

Answer 5

yes talk to him and tell him your feelings. If you are lonely and don't want to leave him because of kids and you sleep alone in a bed of your own, well, maybe girl friend, you need a toy to relieve the stress. it's natural to have those feelings and needs and you have to take care of you and if that doesn't work, go to counseling or finally get a lover and/or leave him.  

Answer 6

It sounds as though this man is having a problem coping with his illnesses.  You, as his wife have to confront him with your problems also but you also have to understand that he probably is unable to perform as he would like to.  If your relationship with him is so shallow as to be limited to the sexual issue, perhaps it would be better for him to know that you can no longer tolerate the situation.  Of course he is mad but I do doubt that he is mad at you, he is mad at himself and the health problems that he has.  You do not make it any easier on him by hiding your feelings, but I guess you do not have enough compassion to get him through this stressful time in his life.    

Answer 7

how do you think you would act if you had the MS

Answer 8

Don't give up. Have faith. Have you gotten into a support group? Your husband is dealing with a lot, and so are you, marriage is through the good and the bad. Get into a support group, have him get the help he needs, pray, and never give up. You two are joined. Good luck, God bless.

Answer 9

That's a tough situation for anyone.  Let him know that you need him and make a list of all of the reasons and what you need from him. Remind him of the vows "in sickness and in health."  But remind him he has to work at those vows too, not just you. Tell him you would like to put some soft music on and the two of you could lay there and talk.  Tell him you love him over and over.