Is it to late to find a woman ?

Question

I'm 35 years old & starting a new life. I don't have alot of money yet, but am a very skilled worker (carpenter, mechanic, jack of trades), & in shape man that has been told is very attractive. I know that my financial situation is a work in progress, but h**l, what's wrong with a woman in on the ride with me? I'm having a terrible time finding women that are single to go out with. My blood boils lately seeing an attractive woman in a relationship, when I'm on the lonely end right now. I'm no stranger to relationships & attractive females, I'd just like to know why the action is so dry now. What happened to the dating scene in southwest Ohio & southeast Indiana ? Are there still women out there that are not afraid to leave thier bad relationships for a good one ? I still have the heart & health of a 25 year old, so I'm trying to figure out if it's a money thing or what.

Answer 1

You are still very young.  You probably have more since at 35 than those much younger.  At least you've been around long enough to know right from wrong and hopefully to do the right thing by now.  Good manners is still important and so is do unto others as you'd have others do unto you.

Loving God and trying to live God's way will probably lead you to a very nice woman to love.  Don't take the first one who comes along and don't act desperate.  Pray for God to allow you to find one and let you know when the right one comes along.  When you get that feeling that something is wrong; it usually is.

God bless.

Answer 2

At this point in your life, not to be harsh but you're going to have to change your mindset. I am 35 and wouldn't really want a man who wasn't on a career path. It has nothing to do with money, (I make my own) but something to do with motivation and passion. I would be concerned about why it's taken so long. I mean I get that people can be late bloomers, but still. This might be true for other women. Women long for security and yes, taken to extremes this manifests as gold digging, but when balanced there is nothing wrong with a woman passing over a man who doesn't have a pot to p**s in because she's not willing to settle for someone with potential. Men pass over perfectly lovely women every single day because they are not beautiful or thin enough. Yet men get pissy when women pass them over for not being able to provide financial security. It's not fair, but that seems to be the way it works.

This might be a concern for other women. Also what age group are you looking at. If you're looking at 18 year olds and you've got no job of course they are not going to be interesting; it's a shallow demographic, I'm afraid.

Also, you need to take a cold hard look at yourself. If you look like Tom Arnold, you're not going to be able to snag Giselle. That's just how it looks. Often times when people find themselves in a "dry spell" for and extended period of time there are some things they're doing to keep themselves in that situation. Whether it's having unrealistic standards or an inabilty to change what's no longer working. In any event, instead of seeing the dry spell as some horror show, see it as a set up for a monster romantic comeback. Use the time to get your house in order and before you know it you'll be swimming in females again.

Answer 3

I coach people & teach them to look at how they think. Have you ever heard the story of the who fits the profile of being the guy no women would look at & yet they are all around him. This is because we attract to us according you our beliefs. Change you mind, change your life. Look at what you wrote & re-write it....It is never to late to find anything I want. I do have alot of money. I work & get paid. I am ready to have someone share their life with me & for me to share my life with her. I am financially successful. When I see a women in a relationship with a man I am so happy cause it shows me what I can have. I am never alone the world is filled with lots of people. I am in the flow of life. I attract the right person for me. I love being 35 & know I am the perfect age to find the perfect person for me....If you start seeing how many single women there are that would be perfect for you then you will be fine. Instead you have been looking at what you don't want...If you want coaching e-mail & let me know. We can work on you attracting the women, then the money, then whatever else you want but I can tell you this you have to focus on what you want not what you don't want.

Answer 4

I know plenty of women that are looking for a decent man!  And you seem to be one of them.  If a woman is more concerned with your money situation than your personality, etc, than why would you even want to be with her??  Too bad you live in Ohio or where ever, my sister is HOTT and is looking for a good man!! lol

Answer 5

No matter what they say money has alot to do with it. I have alot of women friends....most are married and I can talk to them like a sister and that comment on money always comes up. I wish you luck and hope you find a good mate. Sounds like you have your life going forward and upward. Sometimes when you least expect it someone will jump into your life.

Answer 6

Congratulations on your new life! You can “start over” at any age AND have what you want.  

Women may be able to pick up the negative energy that is being thought and felt by you.  They will do two things, either avoid you or attach themselves to you so they can “fix” you. You’re not broken and don’t need fixing, but you might want to change the way you think and feel about your situation.

You wrote that you are “having a terrible time finding women…”  You can change your vibe and mind-set by saying to yourself and believing, “It is easy and fun for me to find eligible women to date” and, “I have a lot to offer the right woman for me.”, or, “I easily find eligible women who enjoy my company and I enjoy theirs. We have good times together.”  Things like that.  When we feel angry over someone else’s good fortune (or relationship in this case) then we are pushing away any good that will come to us. If we don’t allow ourselves to be happy for others, we can’t fully receive what we want for ourselves. Wish them well and mean it inside. You’ll build up good feelings and people will be attracted to that – it’s an energy that people can’t resist. Be gentle to yourself.