I am 27 years old. When I was 7 my mother and father divorced. My dad lived within a few miles from me but he was never in contact with me. Just last year he wants to have a relationship with me. He comes over about once a month and well...how do I say this nicely...I don't feel we have anything in common. When he talks about the past he says that my mother made it difficult for him to see me (and he bad mouths my mom which I do not feel is right because she made mistakes but she did raise me for my whole life and did a decent job of it).
Deep down, I want a relationship with him, but it is difficult. He also does not do anything but sit in his house and watch TV so conversing with him is really boring as he talks only about Court TV.
What should I do? His birthday is this Sunday and he's coming over for dinner. How can I start having a father-son relationship with a stranger? I feel terrible because I want to have this, but for some reason I can't open myself up to it. Any advice would be great.
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