Is it too soon for a promise ring?

Question

My boyfriend and I have known eachother for three months, and have been actually dating for one month (three months all together). We got drunk the other night, and I tend to be more open and tlak alot more, and the topic came up of marriage and everything. This topic has come up a few times already, by both me and him, and we both agree to wait a year or two and no longer. To see how everythign is with one another. But the other night he said he was going to get me a promise ring, I feel like I might have planted that in there by saying that was how my step mom and my Dad did it. But anyways, is it too soon for one? And also.... I should feel lucky that my guy is not afraid of commitment right? Lol. Anyways, opinions, suggesstions, whatever. Everyone is welcome. :) Thanks.

Answer 1

A promise ring isnt an engagement ring, so it's no BIG commitment. My boyfriend got me one last christmas and we have only been dating a few months also. But we moved in together a month after we started dating, anyway back to the ring. The promise ring only means that your are committed to THAT  one person and that he loves and wants just you. I say go for it, if it doesnt work out sell the ring lol. But its not like your engaged so...  

Answer 2

I'm guessing by you asking about promise rings that you're pretty young.  I'm gonna assume that anyway.  I just wanted to say that most people would say yes, it is too soon.  However, there's always that slim possibility that they may be the one.  When I saw my boyfriend for the first time I thought to myself "That's who I'm going to marry one day."  Now, I had NEVER seen, heard or spoken to him before.  And as fate would have it, he ended up going to the same school as me, he was a wrestler and I was a manager for the team, he had never noticed me until about 6 months after the first time I had ever seen him.  We've been together since, for 8 years.  And if you need any advice if you're parents flip **** b/c of it, I'd be a good person to come to b/c my parents spent 3 years of my life in high school trying to keep me from "communicating" w/ him or his family, including hiring a private detective to follow me around town to see if I was meeting up w/ him, which I was so of course I got in trouble.  But I wish you the best!  I guess my whole point in that was if you feel in your heart that that is the guy for you, go for it girl.  s***w everybody else!

Answer 3

If you have been dating only 1 month,I would wait on the promise ring!! You two barely know each other that well. At one month you are still starry eyed and oblivious to all that is not perfect about that person. If you accept it you are stuck with the possibility that you might have to give it back in a few months when the newness wears off.And he is not the prince charming you thought he was. You didn't mention your age? I would give this relationship at least 6 months before even thinking about promises,you are still in the dating stage.SLOW DOWN! Who knows,he might even be the one who might not be so happy in a few months. I've been married 22 years and believe me the first month is a beautiful love fest,nowhere near a promise. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

Give it 2 years. If you are still with him.. then you could probably do the ring thing.

Answer 5

Definitely too soon - you're still in the infatuation stage and will be for a few more months......

Answer 6

So 9 months ago, you asked this same question about a trucker guy that you were on the road with. Now you want to know if you and your boyfriend of 3 months should give promise rings.

Maybe you should spend more time worrying about your actual relationships. You sound like you are entirely focused on these promise rings, even though in one question you claim to have graduated back in 2004. Most people who do promise rings are in high school, but whatever.

Anyway, you say you went through a 2-year hellish marriage. So why all the focus on this? Just try to have a good relationship and let things progress naturally - not rush into things. You seem to want to rush a lot. I wonder if your husband cheated on you a lot or even abused you (at least psychologically), and your whole focus is on getting a "Promise" out of your new man - as if that will keep him from cheating. I just wonder.

EDIT:  Often I say it doesn't always matter if you haven't been dating very long, and only the two of you can tell how you really feel. However, seeing a little of your history, I think it is more wise for you to wait.

Answer 7

I personally hate promis rings. I think they're a load of c**p. They're not an engagement ringe or anything. Frankly, everyone I've ever known who had a promise ring is not still in that relationship.

Answer 8

u should do what ure heart tells u to. If u really do like this guy, and he really loves u, mabye its not too soon for a promise ring. Just listen to ure heart. In time ull know what to do.

Answer 9

well a promise ring is sth really nice... the guy is seriously thinking in committing to you... well 2 years is a long time to wait... just give ur self few months and then u'll decide but its ok to accept the promise ring... he wants to give it to u to prove that he is welling to commit to you and show you that he is serious...

good luck for you  

Answer 10

I am engaged, right now, and we've only been together for 3 months...but we've known each other for 8 months.

Its really only as early as you feel it is.

Answer 11

yes hunny too soo

Answer 12

ok, ok, ok, ok.  i know everyone is saying "too soon" but it really depends on how you feel with him.  if your comfortable getting a ring, then take it.

Answer 13

Honestly, I disagree with everyone who says its too soon. That's their opinion and their entitled to it. Every relationship is different, and so is the connection between the two people. If you two feel you're ready then go for it. My parents dated for four months, got engaged and were married before they were together a year! That was years ago, but I know others who have done the same. Do what you feel is right.