Is it too soon to have another baby?

Question

I gave birth to my baby 6 weeks ago, I now think i maybe pregnant again! I am only 17 years old this is not my own silly mistake! My partner has s*x with me even if i tell him NO! He force's me to have s*x. What should i do? I don't want to have a baby again so soon. I'm worried please no nasty answers.

Answer 1

Its really not healthy to put your body through pregnancy so soon again.  You need to pray that you are not pregnant & when you find the outcome good or bad you need to leave your boyfriend.  Depend on your family for support because there is no need to be "raped" by the one whose supposed to love you!

Answer 2

In answer to your question it is not too soon from the standpoint that you can successfully carry a baby again. However in an IDEAL world you would have waited a year to let your body recover, and rebuild stores of important nutrients. Having your babies so close together can put you at risk for certain complications like preterm delivery, or low birth weightt. It can also make you more fatigued and run down just at the time when you need adequate rest and nutrition to care for the young child you already have.

Psychologically, dealing with two babies so close together can be EXTREMELY difficult. I have had this experience and know that it can seem completely impossible to cope with the combined demands of a new pregnancy and a new (especially your first) baby without a solid support system in place. You unfortunately do not seem to have this support system, considering the abuse you say you are dealing with.

As others have pointed out, anyone forcing you to have s*x against your will, even if it is your husband or boyfriend, constitutes rape which is a CRIME.

When you go to your appointment tomarrow, confide your fears to your physician. They can determine even very early pregnancy through a blood test if necessary. They should also be able to help you with contacts for social service organizations that can help you to live independently so you can raise your baby or babies free from your abuser. In the meantime, if you are not pregnant I would reccomend the placement of somekind of longterm contraceptive (like the Mirena IUC which I had and thought was the most miraculous discovery since chocolate and which medicaid will pay for) in case you feel like you can't cope with the demands of leaving your abusive relationship on top of everything else you have going on right now. At least that much can insure that you don't have an unplanned pregnancy on top of everything else.

I can not say strongly enough that your relationship as you described it is abusive at best and criminal at worst and that it does not seem like a safe environment for you or your child. However, I also know that it takes great strength of will to leave even the worst abusive relationship if your alternatives include leaving yourself and a helpless infant homeless and destitute. I will be praying for you and your baby to have some peace.

Heather

Answer 3

Why dont you get rid of your partner if he doesthings like this to you? It really annoys me just hearing about it, get some self respect and dump his ****!!!  

If you dont want the baby get a termination, i agree that at 17,its way too soon for you to have another baby!

Good luck x*x

Answer 4

Forced you for s*x, that is serious.

I think it is ok, have the kids with very small gaps between them fine biut sort out the forcedd s*x thing man,  your boyfriebnd is officially a rapist.

Sounds nasty, but I had  to say it.

My gf, well my ex gf now is 10 weeks pregnant, and we have a 5 month old baby girl. We laughed and said it was too early but that was then.

I really think it is ok for you to be pregnant again.

But the forced ssex thing, see a counsellour.

Unles syou want to be pregnant all the time for the rest of your life, by force too? sort it out!

Answer 5

yes it is too soon and if you are they will tell and i wouldn't be able to cope with a man who made me have se 2 weeks after i had the baby i would be resting and relaxing and i wouldn't be planning for another 6 weeks i would tell him to wait or get lost

Answer 6

thats rape, so i would consider turning him in. and yes its way too soon

Answer 7

Tell your doctor or the nurse that your home situation is unsafe and that you're being abused. I hope you aren't a troll, this is a situation that should never be mocked or made up. It would be evil to raise your children with a man like this. He belongs in jail.  

Answer 8

if you're pregnant again, abort it. then go to the police for the clear rape issue against your a*****e boyfriend.

Answer 9

if he forces you to do that its abuse and he knows he can do it. stats prove that abuse is very likely to start when a woman is pregnant and this is a big deal. talk to someone and remember this is your body. i personally do not believe in abortion but would never tell another person what to do. youve got to think about everyone involved. hope this helps. please seek help. they should be able to tell at 6 weeks but 4 or under im not sure. dont think so. plus you may still have stuff in your body from before. not sure how it works.

Answer 10

when you go to the doctor, tell him/her that hes forcing you to have s*x with you.

Try talking to your mum or dad or any close relatives that could possibly take you in to their house so your not in the house with him.

What he is doing is rape, its not acceptable and your clearly not very happy with the situation.

Consider going on the pill or getting a coil fitted.

Please please please please take care.

Best of luck.

Answer 11

yes it is to soon. Your body needs a complete year to fully heal and return to where it was before pregnancy and for your uterus to completely get back in place. 1 year.

Answer 12

Tell them your concerns in your appointment tomorrow and I'm sure they can check for you! You need to contact the correct people  about your partner raping you! This is not ok! Please seek attention for this! Go to the police!  

Answer 13

here's a start-get a new boyfriend, then get on the pill-if you are mature enough to have a baby surely my advise is obvious  

Answer 14

Yes, it is way too soon. They will only tell you if you ask them to do a pregnancy test. And you should call the cops on him, that is rape.

Answer 15

WTF.  Do you want your child growing up thinking it's okay for daddys to rape mummys AND IF YOU SAY NO ITS RAPE WHETHER YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP, NO MEANS NO!!  You don't have to put up with this!! Go and talk to your family or friends, you need support and the idiot your with isn't the one to do it.  Why let him do that to you?? You need to leave him!!

Answer 16

As Christina says, this is definitely rape.  Have you any relatives or friends you can get help and support from?  Please tell the Nurse/Doctor at the clinic about this.  You shouldn't be having intercourse again so soon after giving birth; you risk getting infection.  They will be able to advise you whether you are likely to be pregnant again.  You really do not need this man in your life, he is a bully and a rapist.  If you can't get help from your Dr or the police, get in touch with your local Women's Aid - telephone number in the phone book.  Social Services should be able to help you.  Please get out of this situation now, for your own sake and for your child's sake.  I wish you lots of luck.