Is it too soon to start trying for a second baby?

Question

My son is 9 1/2 months now and it took us about 8 months to get pregnant with him. We are both excited to expand our family but terrified of having a toddler and a newborn. I want them to be able to play together. Is this a good time to do it? Has anyone else had a two year old running around with a brand new baby?

Answer 1

My girls are 24 mon. apart. They are now 14 and 12 yrs old and I wouldn't change a thing. They are the beat of friends and they have always played well together. Remember, no matter how far apart your kids are in age  they are still alot of work!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

When I had my 3rd child, my 2nd one was a month away from turning 2, so they aren't quite 2 years apart.  It's tiring, but certainly doable.  It really depends on whether or not you think you will have the energy and patience for it, but I have to tell you, there is no "perfect" time to add another baby to the family.  Just the time that is right for you.

Answer 3

The best time to try to get pregnant again is within the two years after you deliver. My bro and I are nine months apart and my mom says when we were little it was h**l going anywhere but she coped. As it happens though, just because sibs are close in age doesn't mean they'll play together as children or even speak as adults - no animosity - just nothing in common.

Answer 4

My 1st 2 were exactly 2 years apart.  Then I had another 16 months later.  Of course it was chaotic but later you can do the same activities with them and they are close.

Answer 5

my oldest will be 2 next month and i have a 3week old it takes getting use to but its not that bad. best part is by the time they are 19 months they want to help and they can be a giant help getting things you need good luck  

Answer 6

I haven't got children yet, but I'm speaking as an only child so having another baby now will make your son (?!?) more social, and open, and they will actually grow together, which will be a great thing in the future.

And even if you get pregnant now.. remember that other 9 months will pass until the newborn will come, so until that day, prepare your son to the newborn arriving .

Hugs and Kisses

Giulia  

Answer 7

if you guys are sure your ready for it i say do it my sis in law and bro had a baby in 06 in aug. and when he was i say about 6 or 7 months old she got pregnant so now he just turned 2 and their baby is 2 weeks younger than my son she is about 7 1/2 8 months and the kids are doing fine my nephew loves on his sister alot its cute

Answer 8

My first two are 18 months apart. It has been busy these past few years, but in a great way. The worst part for me was having two kids in diapers- that gets expensive fast! They are now 4 and 2 1/2 and great little playmates. Of course, they have their differences and fight, usually over toys, but they are also learning how to resolve their differences in an amicable way and to get along with others. I would have preferred a 2 year age difference but I am delighted with how it turned out. Congratulations on your son and good luck with #2!

Answer 9

Though I'm no expert, I strongly suggest to do what YOU feel most confident and comfortable doing. Just trust your instincts and no matter how much your family or friends may bother you, firmly tell them  that you will do what you think is best.

If you want my opinion though...I think that its great that you want to expand your family but maybe you should wait until your first child is 2 or 3 years old. I know that seems like a long time to wait, but that was the perfect time for my sister to have a second child, since at around 2 or 3 years old they often want to be grown up and more independant and helpful helping "mommy" all the time.

Good luck -do what you think is best DON'T LET OTHERS PRESSURE YOU EITHER WAY.

Good luck!

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Answer 10

I had my son when my daughter was 14 1/2 months old.Then I had my two other daughters. I had my first at 18, my 2nd at 19, my 3rd at 21 and my last one at 23. I had 4 children under the age of  5. Then about a year later  their dad and I divorced, I married my current husband 2 years later. We have been together 11 years (married 9) and he has full custody of his children so we are now in a household with 2 twelve year olds, 2 fourteen year olds, one 16 year old and 2 seventeen year olds. We have all talked about everyone being so close in age and all of us are very glad that they are so close in age. The biggest problem that I have thought about is the fact that once the oldest moves out (which is only 6 months away) the others will soon follow and we will go from having a full, loud, rowdy, laughter filled house to an empty one. I look forward to getting past the teen years but am not looking forward to the quietness. At least until the grandchildren start coming along...but hopefully that is still quite a few years away. :)  

But like I said I had an almost 5 year old, a four year old and a 23 month old when my youngest was born. I had no problem doing it because you get used to it and it's just what you do. Years later when they are a lot older you will look back in complete awe of yourself and wonder how in the world you managed to do it......but with the closeness of the kids and the friendships they have from being so close it was all worth it for me. Even with all the problems that come with them being teens.

Answer 11

Yes!! I have a 2 mos. old and a 23mos old and it is very exciting!! You can do it but you will need plenty of energy! Lol =)

Answer 12

im not sure how old u are but im 19 and my finacee is 26 and we have a 16mth old and we are expecting out second any day now..... it will be a very busy life im expecting but as u said they will grow together .. our 16mth old is a boy and so is our expected so it worked out nice for us. wel got preg when our lil one was about 6 mths old so u are a head of us already .. its your life and u know what u can and cant handle .. its not always going to be easy but is life ever alwasy easy no matter what somethign always comes up .. good luck and if u want to have anyother one do it .  

Answer 13

My sister did it, A friend of mine actually just had baby number 4 and her oldest is 5.  My sister in law was using breast feeding as BC and she's doing it now, too.  It just depends on how you want to do it.  We waited until my daughter turned three and now we are trying again.  But we only want two.  I'd say it's not to soon.  If you both feel ready, go for it.

Answer 14

My boys are 22 months apart - second one was a surprise after trying for eight YEARS for the first.

It's not easy - in fact I think it's probably the worst age difference in regards to how hard it is on the parents.

It's also tough on the 2 year old - our little guy was used to being the center of attention from both of us and became very jealous and lashed out. It took him months to get over that - and tons of patience from us - he still has his moments of sheer jealousy but I guess that's normal.

Our youngest is a little over one now and it's starting to get easier. But overall I feel it's worth it to have them close in age so they can play together (and they already do) and relate to one another growing up. Just be prepared for a really tough first year and make sure your spouse is aware that he needs to help out a lot.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

Answer 15

Our son will be 2 on the 24th and i'm due in March. Its going to be crazy but it will be totally worth it!