Is it too stressful to buy a house and get married in one year?

Question

We're planning on buying a house next year but have also been talking about getting married sometime soon. Is it too much to do all in one year? Does anyone have any experiences?

Answer 1

We got married June 28th, and just closed on our house July 31st.  We had ours built from the ground up, the only stressful part of it was the tail end where it seemed like the builder waited until the last minute to finish things.  Then moving day was stressful because we hadn't packed anything because we weren't sure we were moving in the weekend that we did since the house wasn't finished.  But we got everything packed and moved the weekend we did move.  We had awesome help.  

Answer 2

My fiance` and I are getting married this October. We have been engaged for a year and 8 months, so most of our BIG planning was done. With the market being the way it is and everyone telling us NOWS a good time to buy we decided to start looking. We started in May and on July 15th we closed on our house! We were soooo happy we did it prior to the wedding. It can be stressful b/c at the time we were buying I was working on the invites and trying to find home owners insurance but its all worth it in the end.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

It is extremely stressful but it can be done.  I got engaged the end of July last year.  I was living in Nashville and my husband was living in Los Angeles.

Here's how it all went down:

I quit my job in November.  I moved back to LA, put my house in Nashville on the market and sold it in December. I started a new job in January.  We put an offer on a house in LA in March.  We got our keys in May and got married in June.  Whew!  So, all that in less than a year!

Yes, it was extremely stressful but now I think It's worth it. I mean I always thought it was worth it but I was worn out by it all.  I definately think I look 5 years younger after the wedding and moving into our home.  I don't necessarily recommend doing both at the same time but if it's what you want then do it.  However, don't expect things to come easy.  

Thanks for reading my testimony.

Take care!

Answer 4

Me and my fiance bought our house last November and are getting married this October.  Buying our house was very easy and stress free.  The wedding however, seems more stressful.  It's definately possible though, just depends on how bad you want it.  Good luck!

Answer 5

I'm sure it will be stressful.  We haven't purchased a house yet, but the wedding planning was stressful.  However, a lot of people do it.  If we had the money for a house, we would have done it all at the same time.  But we're hoping to buy a house next summer and in the meantime, we're living with my in-laws.

Answer 6

My sister is getting married tomorrow (her reception is Saturday) and her and her fiancee just bought a house a few weeks ago.  They already owned a house, but had been in love with this big one a couple of blocks away. It suddenly went on sale and they didn't want to risk not getting it, so they bought it!

It was a sped up sale so they have postponed their honeymoon to Italy that was supposed to be in October, because they are moving the last week in September.

They got engaged in January and as I said, the wedding is tomorrow, but they have had some very stressful wedding stuff happen in the last two weeks (which was also the week they were finalizing the house sale).  Their reception venue went bankrupt and didn't tell them!  They are having a 40-50 person reception at a restaurant and the dancing and midnight buffet was going to be in my parents backyard.  Then last Monday morning they read in the newspaper that the restaurant closed down, and they were all crying and my sister had to call the restaurant, and it was like the owner wasn't even going to tell them!  Were we just going to show up on Saturday to a closed restaurant?!  So she was very fortunate to get their deposit back, and luckily her fiancee's mom procrastinated paying the balance owing, so they just had the deposit, which they demanded back.

Luckily my mom has some friends in the local wedding industry and they were able to book at a local hotel banquet hall and everyone has felt so bad about it they are getting discounts on everything.  They had to book a DJ last minute because they weren't going to have one at my parents house, but now the whole thing is at this hotel instead.  

It's a little more of a traditional wedding than they really wanted, but at the last minute, and with everyone giving them discounts, they are VERY HAPPY about how it's working out.

If my sister can handle all that happening in the 2 weeks leading the wedding, I think you can handle doing both within a year too!

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Yes, but I know a lot of people who do it. I work at a place that does weddings and I'd say 1 out of every 5 couples I talk to are doing this. They all agree that it is extremely stressful, especially if one or both of you are trying to sell a house first.

My personal advice is to buy the house, then start planning the wedding. With the market the way it is, now is a great time to buy, especially if neither of you own a property you'll have to sell in order to buy the new place. Get settled in and then start saving for the wedding.  

Answer 8

It can be done. I have a friend who bought her first house less than a month before her wedding.

Answer 9

I think buying a house and a wedding isn't too bad... I'm studying fulltime at uni, have three assignments due in the two weeks after (the first of which is due the monday after) and we're looking for a house all in the same month! I'm ready to pull my hair out. I'll think you'll be fine.