Is it totally inappropriate to show up to a wedding with no gift?

Question

When I sent my RSVP for my co-worker's wedding, money was tight but I could afford to show up with a gift. Since the RSVP, however, my boyfriend's mother was became ill, requiring 24 hour care, then she passed away. My boyfriend was her primary care-giver, and, needless to say lost quite a bit of time at work, forcing me to pick up the slack financially (we live together). Now with the wedding approaching, I don't have the money to give them a gift (I did attend the bridal shower and give a gift). I really want to be there to see them get married and I think it would be just as inappropriate to back out with the wedding so close, especially with it being a very formal sit-down dinner. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Just do what you can. I think that they will understand your financial situation. Weddings are about spending time with friends and family and celebrating marriage - not about who got the best or most expensive gift.

Answer 2

Well since it's only a co-worker and not a real close friend, I would just give them a card. And if you have the extra money, just get them a $10 dollar gift card to somewhere. When you are first married, you use all the gift cards you can get! Good luck!