Is it totally wrong or is it okay?!?

Question

My best friend dated my boy best friend freshman year (i liked him then and she knew) for like 4 months but then summer came and they still dated but never talked to each other. He cheated on her and on the first day of sophomore year they broke up. she wasn't upset at all because she cheated too. They never talked and she hated him. Him being my good friend would message me or text me sometime asking how i was doing.being my boy best friend and all, but my best friend would get pissed whenever she saw i had a message or text from him. i couldn't even say his name in front of her. :/

Well this summer he has been text me 24/7 and even talking on my space at the same time. Hes always inviting me to hangout and party with him and I'm starting to like him a lot. we are all seniors now.

My best Friend lives in another state now and shes engaged to a boy that lives in my Town and has a baby that a couple of months old. me and her fiance dont get along at all and we hate each other. i miss her and all but don't talk anymore becuase of her fiance. he always thinks of things that makes us argue and he buts in all our conversations.

so is it wrong to date my boy bestfriend now?!

Answer 1

your friend should respect your friendship with him.

after all, she dated him and you liked him, and now she's not with him so you can date him.

she could keeping you from because of something really bad that he did, ask her straight up what she hates about him. but it sounds like probably know what kind of a person he is, so this might not be the problem.

don't let your friend dictate your life, you can make your own choices.

go out with him if you want, and if she doesn't support you she's not being a good friend. it is weird because its her ex, and she hates him, but its going to be your relationship, not hers.

good luck!

(:

Answer 2

ok first your friend cant tell you who 2 date!!! second she is engaged and has a baby third she lives in another state and said she hated him!!!! so why would it be wrong to date your best friends ex bf from 4 years ago that she now hates!!!!and she gettin married  

Answer 3

No, it's not wrong..

i think your best friends have already moved on from their relationship during freshmen year..

I can say that it was wrong for your girl best friend to act the way she did when they broke up, i mean he's your friend too right, so that doesn't give her the right to get mad if he communicated with you..

now being seniors i think it wouldn't be a problem because first of all your girl bf is already engaged with a baby so that shows she doesn't have feelings for him anymore, and their relationship was like ages ago. If being with him makes you happy then your girl bf should be happy for you too, and she shouldn't have ill feelings towards him anymore.

oh and about the fiance? just ignore him. don't let him be the cause to break your friendship.

Answer 4

No way! It's not wrong at all. If she has a fiance and is not even in the same state then you can go for it!

Maybe the reason she started dating him in the first place was because she didn't want you to have him. But who knows?

In any case she's gone now and you can live the life you want to live now without her butting in and getting all upset for you dating someone that she already dumped.

Hope this helps!

-CS

Answer 5

go for it! date him!! She is gone so it will not matter! And if you really like him seriously go for it! And is her baby his? and she has a baby??!!?

Answer 6

No don't but to be on the safe side ask your friend what she thinks about you going out with her once boyfriend.She might not have a problem.What i m wondering is why did he choose ur friend instead of you in the first place.Why be second best when you could have had the been the first.Why did they break up and what makes you think he is not using you to get to your friend.About your friends fiancee you should not let him come between you two friends.Tell her you miss her and be patient.Her life has changed with the baby and her fiancee.Good luck.

Answer 7

o no way. u need to go out with him. whenever he asks u to a party go, apperently she moved on.  go out with him and enjoy yourself.

Answer 8

not at all.

date him.

Answer 9

no its not wrong at all

Answer 10

You date who you want.  Seems your friend is mostly out of your life.  Get on with yours.  You are a senoir now so take charge of your friends and boyfriends.  Make decisions you can live with.