Is it totaly shallow and stupid and wrong to worry about how im going to look after having my baby?

Question

i know its so stupid but why do i have to worry so much about how im going to look after having my baby?

im so worried about getting fat and getting stretchmarks and being ugly after having my baby

i want to be a fantastic mother and lok after my baby im eating more then i have in years and not worring about how i look now or how much i weigh im pregnant and its for the health of my baby but im freaking out about after i have him

am i a totaly shallow person for worrying about this?

i have always had verry low self esteem and an eating disorder and i feel so happy most of the time about how i lok now because im giving life but im dreading what will happen after giving birth im worried that ill go back to having no self esteem and hating myself cause il be fat and ugly

does anybody else worry about this or do you just think about your baby and am i totaly shallow?

Answer 1

No, I think every woman worries about this to an extent.  You just have to make sure to eat healthy and not gain an excess of weight.  It helps to go on walks every day or do some excersises while pregnant.

Breastfeeding will help with baby weight come off a little quicker too.

Answer 2

I don't think it's shallow at all. When my foster sister got pregnant she put a lot of baby lotion on her belly, she had tiny stretch marks compared to other people in my family who had gotten pregnant and didn't use lotion. You can eat healthy and exercise. Don't worry about your body too much,let it takes it's course in carrying your beautiful creation. After your baby is born you can get back in shape.

Answer 3

Honestly i wish i worried more about it! while i didnt gain much weight (about 10kgs including my bubs and the placenta and water) i got HORRIBLE stretch marks!!!!!!!!!!!!!! on both my stomach and my b***s. So bath daily in body lotion to prevent it!!!!!!!

As long as you eat health and walk alot (which your gonna be doing anyway) you really wont gain that much on yourself.

Answer 4

We all have thoughts like this about ourselves, you will be so busy you won't have time to worry, you are not a shallow person, its natural, we all worry about how we will cope with and after having a baby but we do, so don't worry you'l make a great mum.

Answer 5

Once you have the baby you'll worry less about theese things.  It will take your mind off yourself to see what a beautiful person you've created.

Answer 6

I bet your a very pretty soon-to-be-mummy just relax don't do anything stupid though. It's normal to be eating more when your pregnant.

Good luck with the baby :) xx

Answer 7

I don't think you are shallow.  Eating disorders are diseases.  No one wants to get a disease, and being anorexic or bulimic is no different.

During your pregnancy, continue trying to eat healthy.  Perhaps you could go to a councilor and try to work through the issues that lead you down the path of your eating disorder.  In my experience, having my baby helped my self-esteem.  Here was this little person that MY body gave life.  When your baby smiles, you will melt and have such great pride.  My little girl is 5 and I still feel awe and wonder that I helped to create this life.  Your child won't care if you aren't perfect.  He will love you no matter what.  That's a great booster for self-esteem!

Answer 8

I don't think that's shallow.  It would be shallow if you weren't taking care of your baby now because of that stuff.  I think it's normal for people to want to lose that extra weight put on during pregnancy, it's nothing against your baby.  You'll be fine, just exercise and eat healthy.  Congratulations!