Is it true? Do sons really act like thier fathers?

Question

Is it true that as they age, they become more like their fathers? If that's true, wouldn't it be wise for women to "interview" their fathers before starting a relationship??

Just curious!

Answer 1

YOu know, there are genetics involved, but he is also half-mom.

Hurt people hurt people.

If your bf's dad is a jerk, your son may be the opposite or a jerk in a different way. He may be beaten down or bullied at home or not.

I think it is a GREAT idea to get a context with a relationship. What I mean is, to meet everyone your bf knows or is related to BEFORE you bed him down.

How he treats the maid is how he will eventually treat YOU.

Once you bed him down, neither of you think straight.

Answer 2

This depends entirely on the relationship the sons had with their fathers while growing up. I have 5 brothers, my three older brothers, and one younger, all had common interests with my father. Consequently, he spent more time with them, and they turned out just like him. My youngest brother and I did not share those interests and spent more time with mom. Now that we are grown, we are NOTHING like our father.

If they did have a strong relationship though, then it would probably be wise to get a good grasp of how the father treats your potential man's mother.  

Answer 3

Almost always. It may not be overt, but it is there.

Answer 4

This is the "Nature versus Nurture" question.

There are many cases where young men behave in ways that are very similar to their fathers: mannerisms, personality, habits, ...

Yes, it's actually quite wise to understand something of a potential partner's family background.  Many things we do are learned from our family of origin, both 'good' habits and 'bad'.  Others we seem genetically predisposed to (like addictive behaviors).  Forewarned is forearmed.

Answer 5

Interview both parents I'm more like my Mum's family my younger brother is more like my Dad's

Answer 6

I found this out as I slowly become more like my father, which I am really dreading, mostly cause he is a horrible family man and a bad husband but I want to have a big family.

I think that actively trying not to be the same person as him works, but with age energy diminishes, and slowly become like their fathers.

Carl Jung said that what disturbs/angers us most is what is a part of us. I don't thinK I have met a guy my age who doesn't hate his father. I think that we are all likely to be pushed to be more like our fathers, but Jung also says that we have to ability to change things.

Answer 7

well in a way yes they will pick up things from there fathers because there father is a role model to them. But also a son will become more like him self. I just cut my hair all off the other night because i tried cutting my own hair but when i looked in the mirror Holy crud i look just like my dad minus the beard on me.

Answer 8

I don't believe that sons always turn out like their dad . It really depends on who they spend the most time around .

My son is no where near any thing like his father ( thank God !! ) .

I raised him on my own from the age of 2 on up and he acts more like me . ( not sure if that's good or bad but ..... )

And my grandson spent more time around my son ( his uncle ) and he acts like my son more than his dad .

I absolutely agree with you , it might be a good idea to start interviewing the potential fathers ( or mothers ) before having children .

Answer 9

Some unknowns are just better left that way.

(BTW - my dad can still touch his toes!)