Is it true that every man excepts his wife to bleed on his wedding night?

Question

i m getting married soon . i m not a virgin anymore.he asked me about my virginity but i lied to him.plz try to understand me i dont know how he gono react when he is going to find out the fact.plz any of u married girls reply me? can lieing about virginity is exceptable?

Answer 1

Many girls loose her virginity due to sports and cycling etc so my advise is for you that you forget about your verginity act like a virgin on wedding nite and after marriage please please dont do physical relation expect your husband

It may be chance that you husband is alos not a virgin  so forget it and enjoy a new beautiful married life

Answer 2

this is your first test in marriage, on your wedding night...FAKE IT! if your not a virgin act like you are...or go and get vaginal rejuvenation before he can find out. i think telling him the truth now will ruin the trust factor at this point.

Answer 3

It depends on which country and culture you are talking about.  In western countries men don't often expect their wife to bleed on their wedding night.  Because in most cases, both the man and the woman have had lots of premarital s*x with each other and perhaps with other s*x-partners too.

In India though, men often do expect their wife to bleed on their wedding night.  And such men usually do get upset a lot when the woman lies to them about her virginity.

Answer 4

well... only 43% percent of the woman bleed on their first night....so you can tell ur husband if u didnt bleed and tell him to google the search and every thing will be ok.....believe me.....just type "hymen" in google search toolbar and evrything will be fine............

Answer 5

You don't lie in a committed relationship (aka, marriage).  And if he's going to find out anyway, why would you lie now?  Give him the change to dump you when he finds out you're a liar.  Save the money on divorce papers.  And please, don't get pregnant.  

Answer 6

I don't know what country you're from, but in mainstream America demanding virginity on the wedding night is pretty much obsolete, thank God. But lying about it is never a good idea, either. Not so much that he's marrying a woman who had s*x before, but that he's marrying a woman who is dishonest with him.

Answer 7

It is very scary to answer this question as a Man.

Somehow, it depends on how your husband takes your position now.

Any virgin will bleed on her first night.

Here understanding of your husband is required.If he does not take this seriously, nothing will happen. There is no other go, but you must be prepared to face the consequences.

Answer 8

em you should have told him when he first asked, now your in a tricky situation where a stupid fib could possibly ruin everything thats good.

either sit him down and come clean before tying the knot, if he leaves you for it, I would be supprised

but on the other hand i dont think he will get down and start looking for blood, people can break their hem and remain virgins, e.g. early age doing gymnastics, horse riding etc if you got to lie again be real about it

but i would strongly suggest my first option -  tell him now

Answer 9

See you know what the Typical indian tendency have. Do you ask the same question to him. can you check a mans verginity. and it is not neccessary that it bleed on wedding night.

No body can check virginity of any gal

But Now onwards you should be truthful to your husband. in past whatever relationship you have just SHIFT + DELETE from your mind, as we do in P.C.

i think you should go to a lady doc, she will tell u that if you bleed on wedding night doesnt mean that u r virgin. Atheletes gal bleed while doing there excercise. so leave your past and concentrate over your future

Answer 10

not every girl bleeds anyway.

did u bleed when you lost your virginity?

some girls who are more athletic don't bleed

Answer 11

i dont think so.

Answer 12

to start with a lie is wrong  but in some places its not ,permitted but if you most go to a surgeon he will fix you up honest.

Answer 13

ya sure if a girl virgin she must be bleed.a very thin lawyer found in v****a may be affected by playing games or doing hard physical work.soin dis cases girl doesn't bleed.bt a very important thing i wanna share u dat if u wanna check dat sheis virgin r nt.u see her fallopion tube.(found in v****a).

Answer 14

Why would u lie.............u tell him before things get late.

Answer 15

I dont see the point in admitting to not being a virgin. This is not something that he needs to know about, of course as a couple you should not hold anything back from each other but in this respect I think keeping quiet has its virtues.

If you tell him now, he will either, cause a scene as he appears to want a virgin when he marries, never trust you again and it will cause problems in your marriage or he may even cancel the wedding.

I am all for honesty in a relationship but ask yourself this, what will you gain by admitting to this and what will you be doing to him if he were to find out ? Its all very well getting this weight off your shoulders but its going on to his and thats not fair.

Better to keep your mouth shut and learn by this experience.

As for your question of bleeding or not, can you remember if you bled ?

Not all women do, its not about how much blood there is its about how you act in the marriage bed. He will know if you are experienced or not in other ways so be careful how you react to his touches and kisses.

We all learn by our mistakes I hope for your sake you will too.

Good luck in your marriage.

Answer 16

Lying about anything in a relationship is wrong. You need to tell him before you get married. You don't want your marriage to start off with a lie. You need trust. If he is not a virgin he will probably be able to tell that you are not, If he has had s*x with a virgin before. A man can feel the hymen break and you no longer have one. Tell him. I have been married for 9 years been with the man since we were 16 and we tell each other everything no lies even if it might cause a problem. He has the right to know and you have he right to enter this marriage with no guilt. You don't want to always wonder if he will find out.

Answer 17

Well, not every girl will bleed her first time, it's only a possibility. Also, I'd tell him the truth just because you don't want to start your marriage with guilt over a lie. If he's likely to call off the marriage because you're not a virgin, then maybe you both should reevaluate your reasons for getting married.

But short answer, if you tell him that not everyone bleeds, he'll believe you. Most men don't want a prolonged conversation regarding the "female mysteries."

Good luck!

Answer 18

My dear you are an Indian. And an Indian husband can compromise on anything with you but not with your virginity. I can understand that when he asked you about it, you were scared and so u lied to him.

My opinion is that on a nice day prepare yourself to tell him the truth and then mail him about it if you find difficult to talk face to face to him. And tell him that you were scared when he asked you and so you lied because you dint wanted to lose him. The important thing is that you should tell him the truth before you two get married.Later the things might get worst if he finds it out himself.

All the very best.

By the way, what made you lose your virginty? It should always be preserved for the future husband. I hate such kind of girls.

Answer 19

You lied, own up to the lie and tell the truth. Why would you do that anyhow? You may have just destroyed some trust that may take a very long time to fix. If it was me, I'd have some second thoughts about marrying you.

Answer 20

if he wont marry you just because you are not a virgin then i don't think he really loves you to begin with

Answer 21

Well you should not have lied first off...but not even virgins bleed.  I did not bleed and I was a virgin on my wedding night.

I think that you need to be up front and honest to him.

Good luck...

Answer 22

if your marriage starts off with lies, don't be surprised when you find out he is cheating on you.... Tell one lie, and have heaps told back to you....

Answer 23

I don't think the problem here is that you're not a virgin. If you can't tell him the truth about your past relationships, I really really don't think you're ready for marriage. If he loves you and knows that you will be faithful to him, your past shouldn't matter at all, and if it does, then you two weren't meant to be. But, if you're lying about it, you are making a big deal out of something that probably wouldn't have been an issue, and giving your husband-to-be reason to doubt anything you tell him in the future, which will cause big communication and trust problems. I think you should tell him the truth before you get married and if he leaves now, it will be a lot less pain and mess and heartache than if he leaves after you're married.  

Answer 24

Tell him before it is too late. And if he has questioned you about this already , than it must be really important to him, you should have never lied about this. You may noe be getting married after all.Good Luck.

Answer 25

It concerns me that you weren't forth coming in this information, especially b/c you are marrying this man, yet you feel you have to lie about something like that. Why lie about your virginity? What good does it do you?  

Answer 26

Past is past...forget it, what lies ahead is your life, we are not westerners where virginity is not an issue but for our Indian society it is. Virginity can be lost in many ways, like for athletes etc the hymen can get torn during hard excercises etc. If you dont bleed on your wedding night then tell your hubby that you were active in sports in school / college etc. But stay true to your hubby after marriage.

good luck!

Answer 27

I don't condone lying, but this lie ends after the wedding. I would use fake blood.

Answer 28

Not everyone woman bleeds when she loses her virginity.  I didn't.  

That said, you should tell him the truth.  Lying about your virginity is definitely not acceptable in my eyes.  Even if you practiced safe s*x every time, you should still both be tested for STD's.  You don't want to start out a marriage with lies.

Answer 29

A lot of virgins dont bleed their first time. It depends on the woman and her body structure and also how big is the guy?? haha! Please explain this to your husband. If he thinks every virgin bleeds the first time, he is wrong wrong wrong!

Answer 30

depends on the situation may be he will notice maybee he will not