Is it true that if you have 3 kids you might as well have a 4th?

Question

A few people have said to me that it is better to have kids in even numbers so there isn't as much fighting or picking on......

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We have one boy who will be 2 in august and he is getting a little brother in October. We're definitely going to try for a third baby after another couple years. I wanted 4 kids origionally but hubby says 3 will be enough!

Answer 1

a kid is $250000 a piece on average until they are 18 yrs old..   Ummmm I think that's a big chunk of change.  ALSO with every child you have you have to think about the room in the car, rooms in the house, if you have a 3 bedroom house and 3 of one s*x....3 shouldnt really share one bedroom...

Ive wanted 5-7 kids my whole life and now i have 2 and thinking private school costs will probibly prevent me from having any more. For every child I have, the less I can give to them... this includes time.  NOW IF YOU ARE RICH, GO FOR IT!!!!!  I would if I won the lottery!

Answer 2

As a mom to almost 7 - I can tell you from experience that after the first two, it just gets easier.  Although it is not for everyone.  There are some good mom friends that I have that could never handle more than the two they have.  It takes patience, a love of children and of course money.

If you can provide for your family as far as finances and love and support between your husband and yourself, well then do what is natural and what is best for you!!

Spoacing is important too!!  Ours are 16, 11, 11, 8, 3, 1.5 and due any day!!

Answer 3

People have said that to me also when i say i want 1 more. They say that you have to have an even number. My whole family is in sets of two's or three's. Both of my parents are sets of three's and they all get along perfectly fine. All siblings are going to have there issues no matter what it doesn't matter how many of them there are !

Answer 4

Well...I'm expecting boy #4 next month and I think this may be partially true.  Once you have 3, you are outnumbered so #4 doesn't add to this.  On the flip side, now I will have a newborn and 3 other kids (including 1 toddler), which inevitably adds to the stress level.

Personally I think it has less to do with the numbers and more with the fact that the number of children has caused you to have more experience - which results in more confidence in your parenting and knowing what battles are worth fighting with your kids.

Answer 5

yes its true that if you have an odd amount of kids .. the 2 of the same s*x will fight with the other .. maybe you have to try for 4 kids and see if you cant get 2 boys and 2 girls .. or all boys or all girls.:)

Answer 6

What I read in the question and the replies so for is "I want".  That really sounds selfish to me.  Think of the children for once.  More kids = More stress.  

More important than the quantity of children is the quality of life.  If you can financially support more, and you don't mind contributing to another population explosion, then, by all means, push another one out.

Congratulations on #2!

Good luck.

Answer 7

Believe it or not, the more you have, the easier it gets. But, either 3 or four is tough. With 3, you are outnumbered. I sailed through three, but four was tough for me..Dont know why..I think it's because there were so many little..But, now, it's nothing...