Is it true that marriage is very expensive in Japan?

Question

Is it true that its difficult in japan to have lot of children ?

If yes or No Pleas explain : )

Answer 1

It sort of is expensive in Japan.  First it all depends on what you want and location.  Smack dab in Tokyo or Kyoto?  You bet.  My wedding wasn't cheap either.  My wife is from Hokkaido and I wanted something different.  She was happy that I wanted to get married there but price was we were looking at over 70k for about 150 guests.

   As for having kids... how big do you want?  The hard part I'm finding is the space.  We just had twins but I'm finding that what I'm lacking is space.... I need more room!  I noticed a lot of families have one child, I think it's due to space and possibly income.

Answer 2

Yes, especially in Nagoya where a wedding gift might be a car.

Answer 3

YES.

I wonder why some people are answering "No" to this question. Everyone knows that this is the reason which is keeping birth rate in Japan low and could make population of Japan decline in the future.

What do you mean by marriage?  Wedding is not expensive. Or you can choose expensive plan. But you can keep it cheap if you chose cheap one.

It's not expensive to have children if you ONLY mean it.

The truth is, it's very expensive to have good education for children. If you send a kid to college, they say it would cost around 20M yen even if you sent him all public schools.

If you sent your kid to all private schools from elementary to college, they say it would cost 40M yen.

More and more people are getting reluctant to get married in Japan.  If the government does nothing, population in Japan will decline with certainty.

Answer 4

it is not so much that they are very expensive, but more that since many japanese people live with extended families, and land in japan is so scarce (and therefore expensive), it has become the norm to have fewer kids... however there are still many many families with multiple children, out of my 3 host families, one had 1 child, with both grandparents living there, one had 2 children and one grandparent, and the 3rd had 3 children, both grandparents, and another child on the way... however my third host family was ridiculously wealthy, they had a massive house (HOUSE, not apartment... one storey :O)

Answer 5

The marriage can be expensive if you live a expensive life, but it doesn't have to be.  The wedding could be expensive also, but you don't have to have a huge wedding party.  It's not difficult to have a lot of children, but a lot of women choose not to have more than one, or they won't have any because they are not forced to have a kid or kids.  It's a couple's choice.  Just like any other people in the world, Japanese have choices on marriages and kids.  Not everything is fixed and followed by everyone and it's totally okay.

Answer 6

yes, it's expensive. a lot of people actually go on vacation wedding to hawaii or guam or saipan etc.

Answer 7

No, it's not.  

It's not so different from America.  

If you want to have a big wedding, yes you may.

If you want to have a dozen kids, yes you may.

In short,  it depends on what you want to do.

I'm Japanese.  

In my case, we had had no money for flaunting of wealth, so we had  only wedding ceremony in our church - no  wedding bash. I sewed  a simple wedding dress on my own. We paid  a little money   to a priest  for  our sincere appreciation .

After the wedding, we had a small and cozy tea-party  at the lobby of church. Our parents and relatives brought home-made cookies and sandwiches.  No alcohol because of church, so we  had softdrinks. But it was so much fun. Not only our guests  but  also lots people walking down the street joined us! We sang and  danced together .



Lots children?

My sister has 4 kids,but  I have no friends who has 5 or more kids. More people have come to think of family planning because there's a  trend toward fewer children per family . Some have no kids  to enjoy their own life.

This is the same in any country, not only in Japan.

In short,  It's not so different from America, I think.