Is it true that we often cause the most hurt to the people who loves us most?

Question

Intentionally or otherwise?

Answer 1

It's only true because it's pretty hard to damage the feelings of people who don't care about us regardless.

[x]melanieinuyasha

Answer 2

It's true because we only lash out at those who we feel most secure that will still be there for us afterwards:  family, friends, loved ones.

Strangers/ acquaintences will not take it and will either lash back at us or never talk to us again.

Answer 3

...i think not...when it occurs to others, one of the two did not want to change...

...and when sadness and hurt sets in, the excuse of being hurt is laid upon the other...intentionally and otherwise...how selfish is that...

...again...i think not and feel it too...

Answer 4

Yes. Because those who don't love you are not hurt by your actions. They may dislike you for your actions and get satisfaction by striking back at you. But those who truly love you will not want to hurt you. They have to absorb the hurt you cause and will continue to love you inspite of the hurt.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, yes we do.

It's the very fact that they love us the most that causes us to hurt them either intentionally or otherwise.

Because we spend more time with our loved ones they get to see us warts and all. We don't hide our negative qualities trusting that they will accept us.

When someone loves us they are naturally upset to see us go through any pain or self destructive behaviour.

Also, if we have been bottling anger, resentment or frustration it needs to come out and it is human nature to look for a release. All too often it is our loved ones who bear the brunt hoping they will forgive us.

When we are hurting ourselves it is all too easy to act callously and be ignorant of the effect we have on other people.

Fortunately, our loved ones understand us most of the time and as long as we are there for them in the same capacity we help to support each other through a rough time and work through the negative feelings together.

Answer 6

they let their emotionally guard down.

Answer 7

We hurt the people who help us most. While our conscious mind tells us to be grateful to the people who are helpful to us, deep within us, we feel a resentment over our need to have depended on them. This breeds an inferiority complex and our subconscious directs us to hurt them.

When we find ourselves hurting others, we must realize the above truth and soon will reform ourselves.

Answer 8

Sometimes people can be hurt the most by people they don't even know

Answer 9

Yes this is true , because we always seem to take people we love or who love us for granted. We love them and understand them so well that we do not think that we can take them for granted. This Is not true. Think of the people you take for granted the most. Most likely you'll find out it s people that you love or love you- i.e. (brother-sister- father -mother husband-wife-son-daughter-boyfriend- girlfriend) Its hard to hurt strangers because they do not know you and you not no them.If you do not want to hurt someone you love or loves you or both DO-NOT TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED,

Answer 10

There are two approaches to this question that I would like to highlight for you.

From the point of view of YOU, you cannot cause hurt to someone else.  Only THEY can do that and only to themselves.

From the point of view of THEM,  if they feel hurt by YOU, it is not really YOU which is involved but their expectation of YOU, which is imaginary.  The same applies to you, and it seems to me that maybe that is where your question really came from unless it was just curiosity regarding the lyrics of a song.

By the way, real love is unconditional, anything else isn`t.  A real lover cannot be jealous, for example.