Is it unreasonable to expect my husband to do our 5 year old daughters hair in the morning?

Question

like someday's before school, i'm gone before she's up. and he just lets her out of the house like that. is it unreasonable for me to expect him to atleast put it in a pony tail or braid it?

Answer 1

Unless he's a stay at home dad, it's probably unreasonable to expect him to braid it, a ponytail wouldn't be that unreasonable. At 5 you should be able to teach her how to brush it herself, and you could probably teach her how to put it in a ponytail by herself.

Answer 2

I think it is too much for a man to do, especially if he never has experience braiding hair before.  My husband cannot do it at all even a simple ponytail.  His hands are too big to even loop the elastic band.  

But he should be able to brush/comb her hair.  

Use hair clips or head bands instead.  It is a lot easier for a father to work with.  

Answer 3

It is not unreasonable but you'll have to show him how a few times.

Answer 4

No it's not unreasonable to expect him to do that - school rules are generally put your child's hair up if it is long enough to do so.

However good luck on trying to get him to change, my hubby is like that most times, and he only ever takes them to school once a week, and yet most times he just let's our 5yr old go as she is too, so to combat that one as it just seems pointless to even discuss this with him as his attitude is "I'm a bloke and we don't do that girly stuff - it's your job" lol. So I will put my daughter's hair up in a few tight plaits (or braids) the night before so in the morning it just needs to be gone over with a light spray of water and a bit of a pat, and perfecto. which my daughter does herself lol. Seee Problem solved.

*EDIT*   WOW what are some people's problem - I mean how pathetic to give people a thumbs down for answers to this one (unless it's insulting then that's valid), but some have thumbs down when they had a decent answer, sad.

Answer 5

I expect that of my husband. Lately I have been trying to make sure it is in pig tails or a pony tail before I put her to bed at night. Then in the morning he just has to redo them. His big problem is that he says he can't get pig tails in straight.  

Answer 6

most men have never learned how to care for a girl's hair, so it's intimidating.  so YES -it is unreasonable for you to expect that he'll do more than brush the child's hair.  my daughter is 8 and has learned to style her own hair.  i have provided all the tools.  pick a different battle to fight with your husband cuz you're daughter is getting the wrong message.

Answer 7

yes i think so, if your child was a boy, then it would be ok.. get your daughter up when you get up, and do her hair.. trade chores that will be more in line with what your husband can do, like prepare breakfast or other chores.....  

Answer 8

Very unreasonable to expect a guy to do that. unless you married a homo

Answer 9

You do not like your daughter or you would care for her the night before

Yes you are a unreasonable mom

Answer 10

no its not. if your not there he should at least brush it out and put it up or put in pigtails so she doesn't walk around with her hair all natty. its not unreasonable at all.

Answer 11

no its not unreasonable.  but if he doesnt know how to do it you might want to teach him (some guys dont know how).  Or if he doesnt have enough time try teaching your daughters how to do her own hair.

Answer 12

A ponytail is expected

Answer 13

Some sort of hairstyle is expected. He should not want his daughter going to school looking like she just got out of bed

Answer 14

I guess that depends.  When she leaves the house, is her hair at least brushed and neat, or does he just let her go out of the house with her hair all rumpled looking?  Does her hair tend to get unruly throughout the day if it isn't pulled back into a ponytail or a braid?  

As long as her hair is brushed and neat and more or less stays that way throughout the day, and if your desire for her hair to be in a ponytail is just a matter of personal preference, then I would say it's kind of unreasonable.  However, if her hair is a mess when she leaves the house or it gets messed during the day, then no, you aren't being unreasonable.

Answer 15

no it's not unreasonible i have this problem with my husband too I however hope your husband at least brushes her hair.  any way no it's not unreasonible but it will still never look as good as when u do it so it up to u if it's that important because it will most likely still look like c**p

Answer 16

If you really want him to and it bothers you then you could ask him to do it for you as a favor. Show him how because I think most guys don't really know what to do when it comes to that.

Answer 17

He is her daughter to so part of getting her ready is his responsiblity as well.  Many guys seem to view taking care of their children as babysitting but it's not babysitting when it's your child.