Is it weird for me to feel paranoid about...

Question

my 14 year old sister hanging out with an 18 year old? Call me crazy for feeling paranoid about her hanging out with an 18 year old that is not related to us in any way, and I have never met. She gets phone calls / texts from him at all times of the day, and she'll answer them at 3 am or whenever. He's one of her friends cousins but i still weirds me out; I know when I was 18 I definitely did not have any interest in 14 year olds. I know I'm just her brother, but she likes to play the victim when I tell her it's weird at this age. Anyways, how would you feel in this sitiation? Am I paranoid?

Answer 1

I would feel the same way if I was in your situation. No, you are not paranoid. You were once that age and you remember what you were thinking about then. I would be worried about him trying to hook up with her. Just keep trying to talk to her and make sure she knows she can come to you in case anything would happen.

Answer 2

Well, generally 18 year old boys have one thing on their mind.  Hopefully he's mature enough to know that he shouldn't have a sexual relationship with her....

When I was 14, my boyfriend was 18.  We were very religious so s*x was not even a consideration.  Some of my friends (big brother type friends) were concerned but my mom had already laid down the lay on s*x so it wasn't an issue.

Answer 3

no its normal but probably fine

just ask her about it

make sure there is nothing 'going on'

but its probably fine

Answer 4

Your instincts are correct.  There is no valid reason for an 18 yr old to be interested in a 14 yr old.  Tell your dad.  I bet he won't disagree.

Answer 5

You are not paranoid.

You are concerned.

I hope your 14 year old sister isn't a s***k who would have s*x with an adult!

Tell your parents or they it down to your sister!

She better not be!

Answer 6

My brother was really weirded out when I started to become like best friends with one of his friends. And I would text him all the time. and we would spend time together alot. We even slow danced as friends at homecoming and winter formal. I mean we were only friends. Nothing more at all. And then when he graduated and moved into the marines... We haven't talked.

Its normal... Just let her handle her self... And if she needs help out of it and can't handle it on her own she'll get help. Your just worried about her. Perfectly normal.

Answer 7

No, it's not, and it's sweet that you're looking out for your sister. (:

Answer 8

you are doing the right thing by be concerned about your sister someone has to protect her she is only 14 years old and at that age you are really nieve.so i think you are a very good brother to have concern for your sister.and i would get on that phone and tell him not to be texting or calling her anymore.because there is something going on there for a 18 year old boy to be calling and texting a 14 year old all the time.

Answer 9

No, you are not paranoid!

This is just you being a protective brother.

But listen, if this really worries you, let your parents know.

Tell them, without being a snitch, because if she feels that you are snitching on her, she won't feel comfortable talking you about certain things.

And yes, she is way too young to be involved with an 18 year old boy considering the fact that she is only 14.

Nip that in the butt immediately before something happens.

If she gets angry at you for telling your parents, then tell her that she left you no choice, and that when ever you tried to talk to her about it, she would always play the victim role.

Do what you think is right.

God Bless.