Is it weird that I haven't started the planning for our wedding yet?

Question

Me and my fiance have been together for 2 yrs in June. We have a beautiful family with our 3 boys and we have made a date to get married on 09-09-09.

I feel like I just don't know where to begin. It is making me worry that I won't get it done and that there is some sub conscious reason I haven't started...but I couldn't begin to tell you what they may be because I am truely happy. Could it just be that I am scared?

I'm freaking out...

Answer 1

A good friend of mine got engaged in mid-late June of this summer and the wedding is this Saturday.

They pulled it off in that amount of time with almost no issues.

There is no law that you have to stress yourselves out for a whole year.

Key things should probably be done in the next few months like wedding venue and reception venue and maybe the minister if your not being married by someone you know - just to ensure you've got the people and places you want.

Everything else can wait and will be just fine.

I'd say the subconscious reason your not motivated is that you have three kids to think about - a lot of other things to do, and don't want to be weighed down by anything else that may cause stress.

That makes every bit of sense. You have plenty of time. Keep it simple, enjoy it and don't be so hard on yourself!!

Congratulations!

EDIT: Good point above about the 09/09/09 date! Get your venues and then relax!

Answer 2

You still have a little over a year! Don't stress about it. I personally think you could start planning after Christmas, and be totally fine. Everything will all fall into place. Maybe start considering wedding dress options, and what colors you would like to use. Start buying some bridal magazines, and browse through for ideas. Also, it is never, ever to soon to book your venue so you are guaranteed to have it. Other than that though...you have plenty of time for everything else. Congrats!  

Answer 3

Often times when there is a big project ahead we can become paralyzed with not knowing where to begin.  It's just overwhelming.  You think of one thing, then another, then what about this, and how will that fit with the other thing,,, I know how you are feeling.  I don't think you are scared of anything except planning a wedding- which is scary to most people.  You have the date.  So now decide where you are going to get married, and go talk to them.  After that, figure out where to have the reception,and book that.  Then take a break.  That will give you some idea of where you will be and what you have to work with, so the rest will come easier.  

Answer 4

it's still really early to start planning.  i started planning 7 months before i got married.

start doing the things that need time to plan  like the venue.

ur not scared.  i'm sure u feel confident that you will finish everything in time that's why you haven't planned yet.

good luck!  it's fun to plan=)

Answer 5

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Answer 6

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Answer 7

You have 13 months to put this together.  Plenty of time. The only thing you may want to start looking into is a ceremony and reception site, if you're having a reception, because the date you've chosen is going to be very popular (like 07/07/07 and 08/08/08 have been).  Then start looking at music, flowers and photographers. Those are the biggest things, and once those are all booked you can relax and enjoy choosing all the details that will make your wedding special.

It may help if you get a wedding planner - I have one called "The Bride's Essential Wedding Planner" and not only is it keeping me organized, with pockets and places to write down answers that vendors are giving me, it also has checklists and timelines and a budget worksheet, plus lots of good advice for different aspects of the event.  I got it at Barnes & Noble for about $14 with my membership.  If you don't want to get a planning book, just sign up for a free account on The Knot (theknot.com) and you'll get all the same stuff right online.  The only reason I got the book is because I like having something I can tote with me to appointments or around the house (can't exactly lug a desktop computer to the florist), and I'm also anal and write everything down in three places.

Answer 8

With that date... you're gonna need to start planning ASAP. On 7/7/07 and 8/8/08 weddings on those perspective days were up over 40% (thats freakish) from normal.  It should be a lil better since its on a Wednesday and not a friday or saturday (like the other two). As for not planning yet... Sweetie - you have 3 kids!! I'm sure your time is a lil scattered at the moment.  I dont think its not that you dont want to be married, if you didnt - you wouldnt still be there!! You're already living the life, all you technically have to do is sign the papers.    

I think the only fear might be change.  You're comfortable with the way things are now, you're scared any type of change will mess that up.   in the depths of your heart, you know thats not true.  I say, dear, go grab a bridal magazine - they have lists and helpful hints to get you started.  

Breathe... calm down... get the opinion of your children to help you out.  It will be fine!