Is it weird that I wasn't invited to my mom and step dads wedding???

Question

I was at school and my mom and step dad got married. Weird I know. Tell me what you think. P.s This was almost 7 years ago.

Answer 1

About the same thing happened to my boyfriend. His dad ran off to the beach with his stepmom to get married and my bf, his brother, and his brother's wife found out about 3 weeks later (this was about 3 years ago I think). My bf, his brother, his SIL, and myself all think this was a very selfish thing to do on the part of a parent. True, none of the family cared for the woman he'd married (she and his dad had an affair and was the cause of his dad divorcing his mom, but that's a REALLY long story!), but I think a parent should at least let his/her children know when he/she is getting married. Even more so, the parent should not exclude their children! I would be very hurt if one of my parents were to ever do this to me. I'm very sorry your mom left you out of the loop, but it's OK to feel some anguish over the situation.  

Answer 2

Parents do many things that, at the time, they think is the best option. When I got divorced my sons were very upset even though it was not a messy divorce. They hoped we would get back together even though they liked my new partner. When we got married, it was small ceremony and small reception at home. We did not invite the boys as they were young and we thought they would get upset. Of course, LATER we learned that they would have been okay with it. The point I am making is that parenthood does not come with a MANUAL like a car and sometimes decisions made aren't the best ones. Usually (hopefully in most cases) they are done with only the best intentions for the children. Let your mom and stepdad know that you're fine with their marriage and that you understand they love each other. And it's also okay to tell them that, even after almost 7 years, you are still feeling disappointed that you weren't at the wedding. Ask if you can have a special family dinner out to celebrate together maybe on an anniversary. Trust me, they will appreciate your honesty and support. When you're a parent, I hope you never have to make decisions like these.

Answer 3

Well, I was in the same boat. I was in high school and i hadnt heard from my mom in 2 days when i called her she said she was coming back from mississippi and wouldnt admit she had gotten married at first. Thats been years ago, and the guy is a real jerk. Yes. I think it is weird and i think if they feel the need to do it in secret something must not be right.

Answer 4

Pink frog hit the spot. It is actually very rude for her not to invite her own child to her special day. But may be it was just between themselves, and didnt want public attention.

May be they eloped?

Answer 5

girl if i was in ur heels i wudn't talk with em ever again u got some patience

Answer 6

Maybe they though you might be uncomfortable watching your mum get married to someone else..or something like that...It really depends on how old you were..coz if you were young they may have thought you might not really be interested for some reason...maybe ask them..? Just say "How come I didn't come to your wedding when you remarried or something like that..?

Good luck..I would be wondering why I wasn't invited too if that was me lol  

Answer 7

I don't think it's weird, unless you didn't know they were planning on getting married.  My aunt and her husband (both second marriage) decided to go get married one day and didn't tell anyone until it was done.  Why?  Because they wanted to be married and not have it a big deal.  It was 7 years ago, get over it already!  They eloped, so what?

Answer 8

My father and stepmother did the same thing when I was thirteen. I was supposed to see my dad for my visitation weekend. When I arrrived, I learned that they'd gotten married that week and hadn't told anyone.

Later on, when I asked my dad, he said that he didn't like admitting that he got married only 5 days after his divorce being finalized and that he was afraid of being judged for having cheated on my mom. He was also afraid that someone would tell my stepmother that the divorce had just been finalized; he'd told her that he'd been divorced for two years when they met.

Answer 9

Yeah, it's weird.  I would probably feel really bad about it, and wonder why....even seven years later, lol.

Answer 10

It is a little weird...did they go away to get married?  If not, defnitely weird!!