Is it weird that Im attracted to older women... ?

Question

ok well I'm 18 (turning 19 soon and still struggling to accept that I'm L*****n and not Bi) and for some reason i'm attracted to older woman. I'm talking about women 10+ years older than me. I'm extremely attracted to attractive and smart women...I consider myself sweet and cute but its really hard to approach any older women without making myself look weird. I mean what would they think? "omg is that girl hitting on me?". Ya you get the picture...when I was in primary school, I was attracted to this swimming instructor, wowzer she was HOT and I know she was alot older than me cuz I was like 10 or 11 back then. I remembered I always get into trouble by swimming far out into the pool (you know further the water is deeper right) just to grab her intention :o...Would you say i'm weird? Now i have a crush on my computer science professor , what should I do this time to get her attention xD (and I know student and teacher relationship don't work that well but meh..) I don't mind ladies around my age but I'm more interested in sophisticated and understanding women. What do you think?

Answer 1

ok

Answer 2

No, its not. Older women are intellectual, confident; and that can be really hot.

Answer 3

nope

Answer 4

someone has mommy issues  

Answer 5

It isn't uncommon and I don't know that I'd use the term "Mommy Issues," but clearly you've been lacking something from the parents you have.  Chances are, you didn't get enough substantially positive attention from your mother - maybe she worked a lot or just didn't "get" you...  Also, how stable was your life, growing up?  Being g*y or bi isn't some kind of weird by-product of little to no maternal attention, so please don't assume that is what I'm trying to say.

The fact that you're attracted to older people of your "preferred" gender (for lack of better wording, forgive me) indicates that you crave stability and respect, however it also indicates that you may be inclined to give other important things up in order to gain those two things.

Ten, fifteen, twenty years is a big age difference, no matter how well you may think you get along.  The s*x may be great, and you may be highly attracted to them (and they to you) however, when it  comes down to pursuing and selecting life partners, you both really need to be on the same page.  Perhaps this is an indication that you need to take your time figuring out who YOU are inside and out before embarking on a relationship quest?

Be careful, and kudos to you for accepting who you are.  Too many people fight it, thinking that it's a sin and/or a choice.  The questions I've posed to you are not for you to answer to me by any means.  I don't know you and I can't actually give you an specific advice, only general things that seem to fit the blueprint.

peace

sg

Answer 6

10 year older is not alot

i've known people who are 14-20 year older than the person there with

so it's not the age difference it's how u feel

Answer 7

as long as you can take the dead fish smell.

Answer 8

i hope not :p

Answer 9

ok i am 17 and i am attracted to 20, 30 even 40 years olds. i know it is wrong but i cant help it. and its not like i am doing anything with them. its only my personal feelings.

so no i dont think there is anything wrong with it.