Is it weird to 'save yourself' until marriage?

Question

I want to save my virginity until I get married but the other day I was talking to my friends about the age we would loose our virginity, I mentioned waiting until I was married and they all looked at me like I was crazy. I don't know, does it seem old-fashioned? Or weird?

Answer 1

Its all a matter of choice, its also one of pros and cons. And also it depends on your age.

Some might say that having s*x before you are a married, gives you experience. Also, if you do have s*x with someone before you are married you might discover that, the man you are with can not satisfy you in the way you need, and while this is not everything in a relationship, some women will end a relationship because of this reason, to some women this might be very important. Other reasons, yeah the obvious, it feels good.  However I can not think of any others at the moment.

Cons can be, occasional worrying if your protection works or if you might be pregnant, wasting it on someone who you find out later it was,'t worth it. STDs, even with protect there is still a possibility of getting one.

I can tell you from experience though, I lost mine at 18 and now I 23 and had wished that I had waited. Because now, I am getting married and wished it was going to with my soon to be husband.

End the end, it is your choice! If you do decide to go through with it make sure its a) someone who you know loves you and not someone at a party and b) PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION!

Also if you are still in high school, I strongly suggest you wait, take time to figure out who you are, what you want out of life and most importantly what you want and expect out of the man that will potential be your significant other! Once you find someone worthy enough of  being in your company, earning the privilege to know you as person and your trust, then consider it.

But if you want to wait, there is nothing wrong, old-fashioned or weird and never be pressured to feel like it is. Some girls try to grow up to fast!

Answer 2

no, its not weird :]

Answer 3

It may be an old-fashioned ideal, but it's not weird.  You do what feels right for you.  If you want to wait, then wait.  And you don't have to explain that to anyone.  If along the line you fall in love with someone wonderful, and no longer feel the need or the desire to wait, then it's perfectly ok for you to change your mind.  And you don't have to explain that to anyone, either.

Answer 4

No i actually think itz better when a female saves herself for marriage and itz more attractive too. Also then u know that you don't have any STD's and u feel much better about urself.

Answer 5

Single parenting, adultery, children, lonely, giving in, std, jealousy, infant mortality (if you are too young), wedding vows, 'ball and chain', lust, rare, what people think is right vs what is right, white-wedding-dress.  

Answer 6

It's not weird to save your virginity until marriage.  That's the Christian thing to do.  How you decide about this is entirely up to you.  I'm a little neutral about this concept myself although right now, I'm 100% pure virgin.

VIVA LA RAZA!

Answer 7

No, it is NOT weird. I think it is very admirable. You stick to your guns on this matter sweetie. Don't worry about what others think about your decision. You will be giving your husband a very special gift. He will definitely have respect for you waiting til marriage. Don't let anyone talk you into doing anything other than what you think is right. ;)

Answer 8

I think it is rare, in general, but just because not everyone has this belief or was raised this way, it does not mean that you should change yourself!    I think that it is generally "not cool" to talk about this as teenagers are exploring different parts of their sexuality (having boyfriends for the first time, etc) and just want to fit in.  I think you might be surprised how many people might also be saving themselves.  I have about four friends who are in their late 20s and are still virgins, and they aren't religious people, nor am I.  They are waiting till marriage!

I am proud of you and wish I had been able to do the same.  (however I am very happily married!)

I hate to say it, but in retrospect, it takes a very special kind of man who will wait to marry a woman before having s*x.  It helps weed out the others.

Stick to your guns, and congratulations!

Answer 9

No that is a great plan.

Answer 10

Yes it's very weird. What are you doing later?

Answer 11

No it isn't weird.. In fact, that was the original plan!!

Answer 12

i am "savin myself" till marrige

i mean y would u want to do it with someone that you wont trust and spen the rest of your life with?

andd good jobb :]

Answer 13

dont feel old fashioned bc i plan on saving myself until i'm married i made a promise to myself my parents and the lord that i would save myself until marrage and i think everyone should so i think you are making the right desion

Answer 14

I appreciate your thinking to save your self. That is very good. nothing Weird or old fashioned.

Good luck for you now , till and after marriage

Answer 15

Why oh why do I always hear, "am I weird because I don't do what my friends do/don't have a boyfriend yet like them etc etc"  Please listen, there is nothing abnormal about you wanting to wait..it is not old-fashioned and there is nothing weird about it.  You are you, be proud of yourself for knowing what you want from life.  If your friends can't respect that..it's their problem not yours.

Answer 16

No its not wierd its just not usually what people do theese days...I am saving myself till marriage and proud of it if your friends think they're wierd or whatever don't go and have s*x because of their opinion

Answer 17

Man, forget about your friends and more power to you. They'll end up being the one's pregnant, college drop outs, and void of self-respect while you'll be sitting high with your hubby. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not giving a guy you barely know loves you the most precious thing you own,... your body. I only had s*x with one guy before marriage (we ended up married at 18 anyway) and my friends called me nunish. Some people don't have their priorities straight, but you're not one of them. Props to you and go for it.

Answer 18

It's not weird, it's each person's individual choice.  But I'd think it through long and hard, because though it's honorable to save yourself for that one special guy, it is a bit of a risk, because you won't know if you have sexual chemistry until the honeymoon night, and by then, you've already vowed 'till death do us part.'  

Answer 19

It's not weird, it's actually pretty smart!  In this age of STD's and AIDS, abstinence is a good idea.  You're going to be pressured in a lot of ways, from friends, dates, society...just hang in there and don't let anyone pressure you into something you're not ready to do.  

Your future husband will be so glad you waited just for HIM.  

Answer 20

it isnt weird at all!

Answer 21

Do u,,, if thats what u wanna do do it...

Answer 22

Absolutley not, infact I respect and applaud you for making that decision. A lot of teens and people think that s*x it the only way to go these days and it isnt. Stick to your guns and keep that promise. You are really a Diamond among a whole world of rocks.  

Answer 23

no its normal for a Catholic to do so :)  

Answer 24

Not at all!

its actually kind of in style right now lol.

its a very personal decsion and a good way to weed out the boys that want  you for s*x, and not  for you.

Major celebs like  The Jonas Brothers,  and Miley Cyrus even wear rings to showcase there promise to stay virgins till marriage.

Get yourself your own "purity ring" and i bet your friends will end up jealous.

Its a really great thing to do and i hope you dont back down, just think how special your wedding night will be to you and your husband!