Is it weird to invite guys to a bachelor party when they are not invited to the wedding?

Question

I'm getting married in September, and my friends want to throw me a bachelor party- I can't invite everyone I'd like to the wedding, but I'd like to involve people with the bachelor party that will not get invites to the wedding. Is that ok?

Answer 1

i guess it just depends on the person ( how close they are)  i will say most guy would rather just go to the bachelor party then going to the wedding

Answer 2

Etiquette says not to invite anyone who won't be invited to the wedding.

But we had a destination wedding and had only invited close relatives to our wedding so I invited some people to the bachelorette party that weren't invited to the wedding.

Every situation is different.

Answer 3

No it's not ok! Poor taste!

Answer 4

no i bet they would rather go to the bachelor party then the wedding anyways~

Answer 5

You're not supposed to invite anyone who's not invited to the actual wedding itself.  It's considered bad etiquette.  I'm afraid you'll have to scale back your bachelor party guest list.

Answer 6

Seems to rub it in their faces. "hahaha I'm getting married and you can't come, hahaha......"

Answer 7

Thats perfectly fine.The more people,the more fun you will have.

Answer 8

it's not polite to invite anyone to a party where they aren't invited to the wedding itself.

Answer 9

As guys I am sure its ok, speaking personally I would rather not go to the wedding anyway unless you were like my best friend....LOL, boring stuff.

Answer 10

Girls would be very offended if they got invited to a bridal shower or bachelorette party, but not the wedding.  However, I don't think guys would care.  I think you should be upfront with these guys that aren't invited to the wedding.  Tell them you are trying to keep the wedding small and the guest list has to be limited.  Also tell them you would like to include them with the bachelor party so they can be involved somewhat.  I am sure they won't mind.  Guys generally don't like weddings as much as girls do, so it probably would be fine.  Have fun!

Answer 11

Hmmm... I don't think it's a big deal but it's different from friend to friend.

A couple I know actually send everyone emails before sending the invites saying they simply can't afford to have all their friends (group of 20 good friends from university) at the wedding and would appreciate it if they could bring each other as dates and not get offended if they don't get invites.

They also said that they'd still like to have them involved in their life and other celebrations and will send invites for those.

Unless you're cutting these people out of your life completely, as long as you're very honest with them and send them all an email and say that you'd still like them to be part of other activities then it'll be good.

At most, you can host a bbq (potluck?) after-party, a week or two after the wedding and invite only friends.

All the best.

Answer 12

No, it's wrong. However, most guys I know hate going to weddings and might be happy to go to the BP without having to go to the wedding. Still, it's a little weird. You know your friends,so you have to decide based on how you think they would feel.

Answer 13

The only people who are included in the activities surrounding the wedding should be only the people who are invited to the wedding ceremony and reception.

P.S.  Of course you're talking to a bunch of gals on here. What's proper might not be what the guys want, if you think about it. Guys generally don't like weddings, but tend to love a good party. Maybe you could get away with this since it's guys. You know your friends better than we do.