Is it weird to want to be pregnant at eighteen?

Question

I'm on birth control because, well obviously i don't want to s***w everything by not being able to support a baby at this point, or limiting my dreams right away. but everytime i take my birth control part of me really wants to "forget" to take it because i really want to preggers.. but i take it anyways because that would be ver very unfair to the love of my life and i couldn't keep that from or do that to him.

*sigh* it's almost a pull that i dont think its right to have s*x and prevent a baby from forming.. almost like christians think i suppose. but i'm very atheist, and i not anti-abortion or pro. my mom got pregnant at seventeen and we turned out okay even though our dad left eventually.. and everytime i feel symptoms of possible pregnancy by mistake i almost get my hopes up..

Do you think its weird for me to actually want this?

you can tell me about your experiances, but i do know that it requires a lot to raise a baby and how demanding they are on your lifestyle. :(

Answer 1

very weird but there are 18 year old mothers id wait

Answer 2

I think its normal. I'm 19 and my husband and I are trying. But then again we're able to support one right now. Though its normal, you should still be married or able to support the child on your own.  

Answer 3

Yes, it is weird.

Answer 4

well they say the girls whos mothers had teen pregnancy are more likely to be teen mothers themselves.  dont be part of that statistic.  18 is too young to have children.  and it sounds like you already know that.  so just be patient.  get your education, start a career, and get married to a man who would be a good father, and THEN have a baby.  You'll be much happier if you wait till every aspect of your life is stable and in order.

Answer 5

No its not weird ; its your strong maternal instinct who is talking to you ; but like you said ; having a baby is a big responsibility ; and financially ; are in a position to give the necessities of life to this precious baby / And yes it will change your life style ; you will understand than you cannot be a mother and  have the freedom of a woman who doesn't have any children ; Source ;;; I am 65 yrs and mother of 5 grown up Good Luck and I think you are a good person  

Answer 6

not weird but I wouldn't want that

Answer 7

I dont think it is weird for you to want a baby! I am 18 years old and I am also 34 weeks and 1 day pregnant! But i dont think you should have a baby till you are ready because dont get me wrong i love my baby but i had to grow up alot faster then wanted! but i did it i graduated from high school and im still goin for my dreams!  

Answer 8

I think it's very normal to fantasize about it. We are built to reproduce afterall and our body's are trying to get us to go forward with that goal.

What is not normal is acting on it at this stage of life.  First of all it would be a major breakage of trust with your boyfriend. He is probably not at the stage where he wants to have kids, and he would likely resent it.

Kids are wonderful don't get me wrong. But they are also totally consuming. You have them from sun up to sun down with few breaks and a lot of chores and errands. You do it cause you love them but not cause it's fun most of the time.  

You have to think. How would I support the baby? Who would buy me diapers and clothes (and pay rent, insurance, doctor's etc)?  When the baby was older would I be able to go to school to get a career and make enough money? Who would watch the baby while you were at work or school? And would your boyfriend stick around? If so chances are it wouldn't be forever. How would you feel bringing strange new men around this baby? And would young men be as interested in dating a single woman with kids?

There are a lot to think about. Trust me you would regret it. You have your whole life ahead of you and anytime in your mid twenties up to your thirties would be ideal. You will get to experience it all. You will still get to have the kids but why not go to school, travel, get a job, get married, etc first. Then you will know you've done everything possible to provide your baby with a loving and stable family environment and you won't have to live with the "what if's" and the regret.

Answer 9

Its not weird, all girls want a baby.

But you just gotta know that right now you gotta do what you can to create a lifestyle that a baby can be brought up in

Answer 10

No I am 17 and I have a 2 yr old daughter. But I am a better mom than half those teenage moms out there. :]]] Unless you have NO job, no education, and nothing going for you then you are deadbeat unlike me. I live in a house of my own with my boyfriend soon to be husband, I am still in school, and I work for my MONEY it was hard. But hey you gotta face the consequences. :]]]]

Answer 11

nope ive always been the same exact way... probably since i was younger than 18... i am now 21 and i still have not gotten pregnant but every month i always kinda hope i am... but to be honest if i would have gotten pregnant back then of course i would have absolutly no regrets but at the same time i wouldnt be where i am today... this is my last year of college and then i will have a bachelors in business and when i finally do have a baby i will be able to support him/her and give my baby a great life.. my mom also had me when she was 17.. and although i feel i had a great life i know my mom struggled to take care of us.. living pay check to paycheck... just wait till your bf is ready or if it is meant to happen it will

Answer 12

It's not really "weird' but its good you aren't actually trying. A couple yrs from now when the time is right and you do get preggo you will be glad you waited. I got preggo with my first at 16 and though i love and cherish her and cant imagine life without her, i know her life would be a lot better had i waited.

and i think you mean catholics not christians.  

Answer 13

i think its ok for s*x if you and you're partner are both ready. a baby may be too much right now. you need more comitment first, so you can be assured you won't be alone in this. i would wait a few more years, or at least until you and your partner talk and decide if thats what you really want.  Good luck!

Answer 14

it's not weird all women have a biological clock but you should wait at least acouple more years give your baby the best you can by getting an education and a good paying job and loving partner

Answer 15

It's not weird... It's just your maternal/biological clock talking to you.  I am also 18 and I don't necissarily want to become pregnant, but I wonder what it's like. Everyone I talk to says it's very hard work to raise a child.