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Is it worth going on?

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When everything is going wrong and there really is no way out and you want to top yaself, why is it someone says "but you have to carry on" WHY? who says so and for what reason do we have to carry on? If life is a load of **** there maybe something better on the other side. Know wot i mean?

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I used to suffer from severe depression. There was a period of time when I was young where I stayed in bed for 3 months only getting up to eat and go to the bathroom. I didn't see a way out during that time, it just seemed like I would live my life in that darkness and it came to the point where it was either find a way to be ok or just end it.

Then one day I spoke with a very good friend and he said to me "happiness is a choice, either you choose it or you don't". At first that angered me because I felt he just didn't get it but I decided to explore it to see if there was some truth to what he said. Turns out he was right, took me 5 years of teaching myself to think differently and a whole lot of soul searching and letting go of old pain and now I'm happy. It seems like who I was then is someone else now. Beyond that I feel this huge sense of accomplishment for overcoming something like that on my own, I went through my dark night of the soul and came out more wise and better than I could have imagined.

So yes, there is a reason to carry on, eventually we all die anyway so your time will come. Instead of thinking about why you should carry on, think about what would make you happy and go after that.
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It may seem like the grass is greener on the other side...but it's not.

Suicide is A SIN and you will go to h**l fire. EVEN WORSE!
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Because you only get one life. If it sucks, CHANGE IT!!! People have come from i am going to guess much worse situations then you and done so much.(saying this because if you have an access to a computer then well you have something) Stop wallowing in self pity! It accomplishes absolutely nothing (trust me i know). If you want a great life, GO OUT AND GET IT! You may see it as pointless work to try and get to an ideal place, but you will find the journey is what matters and were you will have the greatest times of your life. Don't let the world bring you down!
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I always say to suicidal people that if they think they can never ever be happy then go ahead do it. So far when I have explained how to really do it they suddenly decide they don't want to after all. That's because most suicidal people are just unhappy and depressed but if there circumstances were different they would be happy. A true suicide victim doesn't ever think they can ever be happy alive.

Life is what it is. I am happy anyway, even when nothing is going right for me.
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Dang.

I can't answer your question for you -- none of us can.

I've heard a lot of people saying "it'll get better" -- not necessarily; depending on the circumstances, it could get worse.

I've heard a lot of people saying "don't do it, it's a sin"-- that depends on which interpretation of God you personally believe in; some religions say that suicide is an insult against the gift of life, but others say that God takes some pity on those who can't take it anymore.

I've heard a lot of people saying "go ahead, do it" -- that's not right either; by saying that, they're effectively gambling with your life.

FWIW, my suggestion is to talk with a TRUE friend you've known for a long time. They might be able to help you sort out whatever it is you're going through, without judging you or forcing you in any way.

If you can't do that, then you might want to talk to a psychiatrist or a clergyman, or some other similar sort of expert. They might help, but just to let you know, they sometimes have professional or legal obligations to talk you out of it.

If you believe in any sort of God, Goddess, Pantheon, etc., prayer might help you sort this out. And regardless of whether you do or don't believe in any of the above, meditation might help you sort this out.

I don't know what else to say. Only you have the power answer your question correctly. Others can help, but only you can answer.
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if you are young carry for definite.

life is like a movie though

if you have sat through more than half and its been bad all the way, then the chances are it wont get good at the end and make it all worthwhile!

dont do it tho! please!

who knows what happens when u die, could be good bad or nothing
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I think when you are down right to the bottom, the only way is up. Hang in there, time moves on and things do get better. And if you are trying too, they get better faster.
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yea

nikki sixx never said die even though his dreams wer huge and look at him now
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You have my sympathy for your distress...and for your spelling.
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Maybe your life would change if you didn't act so selfishly. Since I started to be more of service to my fellow human beings my life has changed damatically. I have found wealth beyond my desire.

The rolling stones were right-- You CAN"T always get what you want.
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Yes, I know what I mean. I'm not so sure myself why it's necessary to carry on.
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My Poppet, there have been many attempts by myself to end my life.

I Swear to you, I have been in places,that are only seen in Nightmares.

I have lived on the streets, been through addictions and in the gutter.

Now here I am 52,Alive Clean and though not thrilled with my life,I am so glad I still have It.

Only you can choose the path you take,

but believe me Sweetheart,Life is short enough,

and if you feel you are getting nothing from it,

Try giving, there is so much good you could do.
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but what if tomorrow is the best day ever? what if there is nothing on the other side ? most religions I know of say to commit suicide is to d**n oneself to h**l....
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The following quote will sound harsh. I know because someone said this to me at my lowest ebb (after losing my career and losing my wife) and it felt like a verbal attack on me. (It wasn't.) It shocked me enough to start changing my perspective and it did help once I had pondered it a fair while.

"Stop being a victim."

I really didn't get this at first but you see society has sympathy for the victim. But this is vicious circle - you are rewarded by getting this attention. To break this circle is the hardest thing. Life isn't just something that happens to you, it's something to be lived. You have some control of your life - focus on that to change your thinking from the victim mindset.

You woke up this morning - over a hundred thousand people didn't. Your life is a gift so instead of just surviving start living. Today.
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Well this is how you feel at this hour but you might not feel this way later so it might be hasty.I felt that way this morning but then I wrote a long list of things I really enjoying doing,you cant do those things when you are dead.

The other side is a mystery it might be worse,ive heard death is dull.I dont think you can do much in death and probably listening to the harps would get very irritating after awhile.... think of all the musical options you have here.
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No one forces you to live... it IS a choice. You need to take responsibility for your life and make choices which lead to better results. Instead of asking yourself "why carry on" you could turn that round and ask yourself "why NOT carry on?" You have no idea what is around the corner... and what if you did kill yourself only to find the same demons and c**p in hot pursuit? Who says you get to leave that behind? You have to stand up to things, deal with them and face them, that's the only way to be free.
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My Dearest,

Life in itself is why we must carry on.  I don't think there is anyone holding a gun on any of us saying "you must carry on".  It's the will inside of us wanting to live that continues to strive each day.  There's no one to tell us life can be better.  We are the deciding factor about our lives.  Only we ourselves can make the conscience decision to choose to make this thing called "Life" work well for us. God gave each of us a will in the beginning.  He could, but He will not make make us do anything.  He wants us to choose to serve Him.  There isn't a person alive without problems.  Your situation isn't isolated.

When everything is going wrong at one time.......sometimes it has to do with our attitudes towards the people around us.  If we're breaking rules and being disrespectful, of course we're going to be treated like out cast.  Reverse the roles.  Think about this for a moment.   How would you handle it and make it different for you?  There's your answer  That wasn't so hard was it?

See "Life" is worth living.  We just need "people" from time to time to help us "bust through our own thinking processor".

You're going to be just fine.  Have wonderful  tomorrows.

Blessing to you<><):
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Because there is always a morning after, and it's especially darkest before the dawn.

Look at the dark times as lessons learned the hard way, and use that experience to bring light into your life and to show others by your strength in doing the hard things.
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No its not worth it,you have to be mentally insane to carry on.Thats why every single person in the modern world has mental problems.The suicidal are the sensible & sane people as it is a natural feeling to feel when you look at & live in this ****** up world.
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I think we carry on from moment to moment for the moment we have now. The moment we always have is the moment of our hope. When we find life loathsome in the moment present we borrow hope from the future. And when we see no reason in the future we look back in time and remind ourselves of the moments past, but all is what we have now.

If all that we have in not worth going on then what else we can have more worthy of our while being here? If we could see something superior, if we could be something better, then we would not hesitate throwing away what we have in order to receive something more admirable and valuable, for this is the reality of the mind that it ceaselessly seeks things better and better in life, and once it find something better there is no way to stop the mind along it way to achieving that one way or the other.

This is true that life in its physical sense does come to an end, but does mind follow that rules of the physical word? Does the mind not see things and think beyond all bounds and limits of both space and time? There is life after death. You might not believe, but there is not way for you to prove that there is none, there therefore is no way to take the mind off its sense of wonder. What is beyond the limits of this physical world? It is made of all things limited in their size, in time, then the universe must also be limited itself, but what starts where the universe ends, in space as well as in time.

Then this is ironic that it will make little difference if you ceased to exist in the world. You might take this as a reason for you to ask the sorts of questions you have asked. You might worryingly wonder about this, but the actual effect of this realisation on a normal mind is quite the opposite. I think when we feel insignificant and at the same time a being in our one way, we seek to find that significance. Under this influence we do great things in the world. We learn to become kind and loving to others. We learn to have faith and believe in notions can concepts far greater than ourselves, but all this is us. The world we see and sometimes find little in way of consolation of our hurt sense of pride is all but our own by virtue of belonging.
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yeah i know what you mean.

everyone says that as a sympathy act giving us hope for tommorow when theoritically everything will be better for us.

in my opinion its "bullsh**"
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Life is what we make it, you can give up, but what is the point of that? No one has ever said life is always going to be easy, Lord knows it is not. It sounds like you are making it harder than is has to be, so lighten up on yourself and just enjoy yourself for awhile. Please seek out counseling, you will find out life is worth living.
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