Is it worth it to have a wedding ceremony/reception if you're already married?

Question

My husband and I got married last year...We had a small civil ceremony in our home. I was 4 mos. pregnant, and we both decided that since all of our families couldn't be there that day, we would have something bigger and beautiful after the baby was born. Our son was born in April and it's been so hectic, but I still want a wedding....My husband said it's not worth it now, and by the way with the economy and our finances, having one is really expensive....Should I forget about it and opt for a cruise for us two instead, or should I go for it?

Answer 1

It's worth it if you both really want it. You get to share that day with your families together too. I would rather do that than a cruise...but that's just me.

Answer 2

Oh come on, don't be silly. You could feed all of Zambia for  what a wedding will cost; save your cash for life. A great vacation will be less than half the price and way more fun than a faux wedding. I am doing the City Hall thing tomorrow and as much as I would like to host a huge fun party for all of my friends and family, a year from now or five years from now it will not be worth it. Take the cruise.

Answer 3

I wouldn't bother with the wedding ceremony- that's already been done. You could have a really nice reception though, and just call it a 'celebration of your marriage'.

I also think the cruise idea is good- it would be like your honeymoon!

Answer 4

i think u should go for the cruise...did u all have a honeymoon if not well have one instead of the wedding ..

Answer 5

If it's something that's important to you and the thought just won't go away, go for it!

My grandparents eloped and had a civil ceremony, and then later had a small wedding when my grandma was pregnant with my mom. It has been done before, and it can still be special for both of you!

It doesn't have to be a big expense. Ask around, talk to friends, and I'm sure they could give you some great money-saving tips. Maybe ask your hubby if he would be willing to do a wedding if you could do it for $X or less... Explain (not nag :)) and let him know how important this is to you. Hopefully he'll go along, and you can have a lovely wedding!

Congrats on your son, by the way. :)