Is it worth it to still be with a cheater?

Question

Is it or not?

Has anyone worked through adultery in your marriage?

Just curious.....

Btw I have not cheated. And I am single still lol

Answer 1

i dont think it would be worth it. The issues that cheating brings up are numerous.

1. Trust- i dont think they could earn it back.

2 Diseases- i would have to be tested again and again for HIV/AIDS and countless other diseases.

3. Mental anguish- i would have this on my mind constatntly and it would take a long time to work past it just for my own sanity and to not punish the next guy for the actions of the cheater.

4. self worth- i am worth more than to have a man think that he can do this and be forgiven, which is essentially giving him permission to do it again. if there are no consequences, then why stop?

Answer 2

Yes, my husband & I have. I cannot speak for anyone but myself and must say that it was worth it. Would have been easy to just walk away and not put in the effort to deal with the issues he was having but we loved each other enough to see this one moment in time would not take over our entire life together.

I trust him again and know he loves and always has loved me, as I do him.

It is a personal decision each couple faced with infidelity must make; what is right or some is not what is right for others.

Answer 3

Well sweetie with GOD all things are possible

Answer 4

I tried repeatedly, but I quit when her boyfriend , picked he up after counseling !!!!!!

Answer 5

Not worth it. Those days are gone.  

Answer 6

I don't see Jenny here....?

i cant stay with a cheater thats just gross, hes here with me goes with someone else then comes back eew..cant do it

Answer 7

In most cases marriages do not survive infidelity.  I only know of one.  My father had an affair many years ago.  It took time, lots of marriage counseling and my father going through rehab for alcoholism but they did make it through and are still together.  They've been married for 42 years now and he's been sober for 26.

Answer 8

I agree with the other person.  Through God you can make it...I am currently going through the motions...The affair was in 2006 and it is all one day at a time.  Some days are good, some days are bad.  We have two children and it is important for us to not think about ourselves...

Answer 9

my dad cheated on my mom twice but they got through it for about 12yrs and now there getting a devorice....

Answer 10

I cheated on my husband about 5 years ago and I came clean and told him everything and we worked through it. I think its worth it if the person does it and then knows its wrong and vows never to do it again. I felt like a crappy person and that's why I came clean. I wanted to give him the choice, whether it be walk out the door and find someone else or give me another chance. I am grate full everyday that he gave me a second chance. We are expecting our 3rd

child and couldn't be happier.

I'm just curious why do I get the thumbs down.. I made a mistake and I didn't do it again. Yeah I shouldn't have cheated but I came clean and my husband gave me another chance. I've been faithfull ever since. There are some people that do it over and over again and don't come clean while the other person had no clue. I did the right thing and if thats wrong than the people who gave me thumbs down are crazy and pathetic!

Answer 11

If you have any self respect, you won't ever give a cheater a second chance.  Make it clear from the beginning where you stand on the issue and how hurtful it would be to you if they were to do that to you.  

Answer 12

no one can answer that but you if you can deal with it  go ahead and if you thin you can leave that person.