Is it wrong, really wrong to want a different experience occasionally?

Question

I have been with my lady for a number of years. I love her with all my heart. But she was a big girl when I met her, and she has gotten a little bigger over time. She's sensitive about it, but is unable to do anything to change it. I just let it go and don't say anything.

The problem is that I can remember what it is like making love with lightweight females, who could lay on me and not crush my breath out. I miss being able to make love in a lot of positions that are impossible with a larger girl.

I have been absolutely faithful. This of course doesn't count the very few adventures we have shared in a couple to couple or threesome situation. None of those people fit my real desires. Am I completely wrong to want a flat chest and one - hand bootie to make love with, even if it is just once again before I get too old?

Answer 1

ive heard a saying b4, "what she doesnt know cant hurt her".  that saying works for you, i would say.  No you are not wrong to want a flat chest & a one-hand bootie - that is nice to hear for someone who has a flat chest and a small butt!!!  i know that ppl will say im evil, but u should go ahead & make love with that lightweight.  Just dont let ur girl find out about it & u will be fine and so will she.  she has let u down by getting fatter, so this is just ur way of feeling better ♥♥♥

Answer 2

Think about what you really want, I try to do this philosophy if she was in the room watching you do what you're doing to this girl how would she feel?  Would she be crying, because if she finds out that will be what you have to deal with.  If you love her, I believe the thought of hurting her would deter any kind of lightweight activity.  

Answer 3

Life's too short do what you want just do it safe and don't let her find out

Answer 4

She's sensitive about her size yet agreed to 3somes? And why is she unable to change it? Is it a medical condition? If you love her and want to stay faithful, then help her lose some weight.

Answer 5

Have you ever talked about your feelings with her?  I'm a plus-sized woman and I would rather the small sting of jealousy to hearing those kind of desires then dealing with the root of the jealousy to having my man unhappy or cheat on me.  Who know?  Maybe talking about your feelings and your fantasies might be enough for you to quench those desires.  Or another possibility is that she might even be ok with you sleeping with another woman to get those needs met.  Or, it could start a big fight between you two that will take some time and work to resolve.

Whatever her reaction, I honestly believe it's best to talk to her.  If you keep your feelings bottled up, you will likely obsess about them and either cheat or start to resent her.