Is it wrong for a woman to punch her partner in the face if he deserves it?

Question

my mom and i had an argument about this yesterday. she thinks its completely wrong (yet however it was okay for her to do such to me when i was younger and she would get mad).

ive done this to my sons father we've been on and off since i was 16. we look back and laugh about certain times its happened (even though it wasnt funny then) but he DID deserve it, i promise. im 5'3 and under 100 lbs when not pregnant. theres no way i really hurt him. i still mess with him to this day....like elbowing him really hard or smacking his arm or stomach or something, we're young...is this really SO wrong? he's never hurt me back, he has restrained me or thrown me on the bed.

is it really that wrong? have you ever punched your husband or boyfriend in the face?

Answer 1

If my woman were to hit me I would be considering splitting buts thats just me.

Answer 2

It's pretty agressive.  My guess is you have other issues and this is a quick non-verbal easy way to get what you want out - as far as expressing all your frustration and it makes you feel good in a way to do it.

When I was a lot lot younger I had one boyfriend that I was sort of physical with this, although never punched him in the face.

Really we had a lot of relationship problems that we didn't know how to verbalize or handle and I was very angry and blamed him for being an idiot.  Looking back, I just still thought the world revolved around me and I was smarter than everyone else, including him.

Life experiences really teach you that you know relatively little about anyone or anything and really make you much more tolerant and curious more than anything about other people.

Today when I get frustrated with a partner, I'm much more curious to know why or what is going on and caring - not angry like wanting to punch him.....

Answer 3

It's wrong!..you should never put your hands on anyone in anger.....what if it was the other way around?.......you'd be crying abuse.........and that's not a healthy way to deal with anger...............Go punch a pillow!

Answer 4

Sure it's okay. Just realize that since women want equality nowdays, it's equally acceptable for the man to punch you in the face back.

Of course, if you don't like getting punched in the face by men, I don't see why you think it's okay for men to get punched by women.

Answer 5

i've hit my son's father, but its nothing i'm proud of. at times i could tell he was close to blacking out and hitting me (he put his hands on my neck although he didn't choke me) and i realized how uncool it was when he hit me back. both of us have to practice restraint because things can go south really quickly when we're mad at each other. but honestly, i've attacked him first always, and he typically only tries to defend himself.

Answer 6

NEVER HIT YOUR PARTNER! How would you like it if that happened to you,dumbass.

Answer 7

As long as your child isnt seeing you doing that agressive stuff. Its a hard question because its really never right to hurt somebody because they deserve it but at the sametime your like whats the big deal im so little and hes a grown man so im not really hurting him. If the child is out of the way of all of this then i think that there is no problem.  yes ive hit my bf but not in the face:)

Answer 8

I dont mean to sound rude but that is horrible. Both your mother and your opinion of it. When you love someone you might get upset and frustrated and so on but what she did to you was child abuse, what you do to your on/off boyfriend is spouse abuse and you can actually be put in jail for that. If you love someone you dont punch or hit or anything else. Its just childish. Your an adult not an 8 year old kid with anger issues.

Answer 9

yes it is! you go dump him!!!

Answer 10

idiot

Answer 11

Hello,

Yes it is wrong...no matter what a person does they do not deserve to get hit........and no I have never ever hit my partner not matter what...you are an adult.......oh also you are not setting a good example for your children. If you are angry or he's done something stupid talk with your mouth not with your fist. How would you feel if he punched you everytime he thought you deserved it????  It is wrong!!!!

Answer 12

it's 100% wrong unless you're being attacked.

yes I've done it in my younger days too... not proud at all. it was awfully wrong of me.

Answer 13

It's not really "that wrong" if it is true that as you say, you can't really hurt him, especially if you don't truly intend to, and there is no effect of intimidation or interference with the communication in your relationship because of it.

But it's still basically wrong. If it weren't, you'd have to justify it with a sexist double standard, or else condone violence by him against you as well.

I think I have lashed out once. Not at his face. I felt rotten about it, and kinda sheepish since obviously, he could pound me black and blue if he wanted, but he never would, not in a million years, because he's a good man. So it's cowardly and manipulative for me, if I hit him.

Answer 14

your the type that get people killed,,then say how me......

Answer 15

why would you hit/hurt someone you love?Its not right to ever hit anyone,i only believe if its in Self-defense

Answer 16

here's one for you,just think if you punched him one day and he was in just one of those moods,and he just out of reaction hit you so hard he put you in a coma for a few weeks and when you awoke from your little nap you now see the light that may be i shouldn't hit him anymore...but again it sounds to me that you like to be rough????....

Answer 17

the face does hurt, but yeah i always beat the c**p out of my boyfriend, whether its a gentle smack in the face, a punch in the stomach, or a kick to the balls, we wrestle all the time (except for when i was pregnant)... i guess most people will tell you its unhealthy for your relationship but i feel that it makes ours stronger, so i dono , good luck

its kinda like how you wrestle or fight your siblings, only it ends in s*x or giggles. so what the h**l