Is it wrong for me to ask of this?

Question

My boyfriend of 4 years and I broke up and then got back together,but during that time he was with another woman and now it turns out he got her pregnant. And even though he says he still loves me hes leaving me for her. Am I wrong for wanting him to stay with me? I know he's responsible for the child but couldnt he just pay like child support or something other than marriage?

Or should I just let it be?

Answer 1

definately not wrong to ask it but thats his choice and maybe its for a reason? Ask yourself why you broke up in the first place and are those problems really dealt with now? Maybe its time for a new chapter in your life and to move on and try new things and meet new people.

Answer 2

You are not wrong for wanting him to stay with you..that's a natural feeling to have.  You love him.  Having a child with someone is no reason to have a loveless marriage.  If he loves you, then he should most definitely pay the child support,split the custody, and be with you.

Answer 3

Let it be!..

Loving him is not the reason that would saperate a father from his child, think of  that baby who may grow up with conflict of loosing his father.

Even if he choose to be with you instead that women, your life will have a lot of problems because of that link “baby”.

Think about it

Good luck

Answer 4

If he is only with her for the kid, it won't work.  But you can't decide for him.  That is such a tough situation...Try to express how much you want to be with him and that you understand his position.  I think it is really big of you to want to work it out.  Talk to him and try to read his reaction.  Are you sure that isn't just his excuse to be with her and to let you down easily?