Is it wrong for me to still not be upset?

Question

i've been keeping myself occupied today as this morning, i found out my friend who i've grew up with since birth, died last night; i've cried a few tears but why has it not effected me?

i've lost 4 people close to me in the last two years and other members of family also and i cried so much - now, i've just been okay? i don't understand? why is it like this?

Answer 1

Because you just found out this morning.  In time, you will most likely begin to grieve more.  It's a shock to you now, and when the shock fades, the tears will probably flow.

Answer 2

maybe you're in shocked or ur just so tired of crying because everyone seems to be leaving.

however, not crying is ok, u don't always have to cry to show that u care..

Answer 3

You're still in denial.  There is the 5 steps to acceptance once someone has passed away.  I don't remember them all but it just hasn't hit you yet.  There is no set time to go through each step. Some people can go through them in a few days while others take a year or more.

Lots of prayers  

Answer 4

you are probably in shock hun. It will come later. I'm so sorry to hear that. Just hold on, things will be ok. Don't hold anything in...just let it out. Hope i helped sweetie..

Answer 5

I lost my grandmother, my great grandfather, and a very close family friend and shed no tears untill years and years after their deaths. Their deaths upset me greatly but i guess i didn't cy because they wouldn't havewanted me to. Be brave and i feel so sorry for you. Hugs and best wishes.

Answer 6

Everyone handles the loss of a loved one or a good friend differently.  It'll probably hit u unexpectedly.  Like when you're out & about with some friends or while you're just chillin at home by yourself & u might brake down.  Sometimes it happens when u start reminiscing about stuff in the past or when you're doing something that u guys used 2 always do 2gether.

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with however you are feeling.  If you wanna cry, you cry, if you don't want to, then you don't.  People tend to be occupied that they should feel a certain way, but we all grieve in our own way.

However, sometimes things don't hit you, for example you are still in shock, or you are just too busy that when you stop moving, and you take a second, it may start all coming in.  

Answer 8

that happened with my grandpa. it just might not have set in yet