Is it wrong for me when attending anonymous type meetings to be attracted to some men there?

Question

Im so mad at myself. I attend meetings for an issue I have, and instead of concentrating on the meeting am secretly watching the hotties there. This is wrong, what do u think, and what should I do?

Answer 1

wow, you are just looking for trouble.  

Answer 2

go for it see where this takes u but dont be too trusting u never no they might already be in a relationship and not telling u  best of luck

Answer 3

You should go to a women's only meeting.  You don't want to interfere with someone's recovery (or your own).  Dating within these groups is discouraged for that reason.

Answer 4

get some phone numbers.....

Answer 5

Be very careful of codependency issues.  Your best bet is to reserve recovery groups for recovery and date outside the groups once you're in recovery.

Answer 6

It's nothing wrong if you think it makes as a good time filler but it can be offsetting when or if it deviates you from handling your primary objective(s). It's also acceptable to consider that what if or maybe your current meetings seems to bore you more instead of being helpful to touch on your intended subject. (hence the reason why you're prone to "watching the hotties").

Answer 7

First of all, stop being so hard on yourself. I have attended meetings for addictions and your feelings are absolutely normal. And why do you think it's wrong to check out the hotties? That is perfectly normal.

I would however, ask myself this:

Are you REALLY there to get help for your issue? Maybe you are not ready and that is why you are not concentrating on the meeting at hand.

Good luck to you!