Is it wrong for your parents to call you fat?

Question

Im 15 and im normal weight. Im an english size 8 and I can fit into a 6 but my keep saying I need to watch my weight and that im geting fat. Is this wrong?

Answer 1

Sounds like they have their own psychological issues with themselves that they are pushing onto you.  They are being ridiculous.

Answer 2

It's appaling. They should be ashamed of themselves. There is nothing wrong with your weight at all. Please don't take this to heart.  

Answer 3

I think that it is wrong for a parent to call their child fat. It is one thing if the child is severely overweight and there are health issues at risk, but you sound like you are a normal healthy size. If the child were to ask their parent if they were fat and the parent had an opinion he or she could nicely say that they have put a few lbs on or that they are a little heavier than average if that is actually the case. I think that it is not only hurtfull to the child if a parent says that their child is fat but I know from personal experience that it can cause harm. I grew up with a friend whose mother called her fat and she developed a eating disorder that she delt with until recent years (we are 23 now). Bottom line is that it is not right for a parent to flat out call their child fat and beside that it does not sound like it is an issue for you any way.

Answer 4

It is wrong and you are not fat.

They may say this as a word without its meaning.  I suggest you go to your school and counsellor and tell them or a good friendly teacher.

Get help fast

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Answer 5

Yes, it is wrong, and my dad did the same thing to me when I was a teenager. It can also cause the kid to develop an eating disorder. Talk to an adult friend you trust, if this is bothering you.

Answer 6

If they say it critically or embarrassingly, with no good intentions, it's wrong and it's cruel.

If they say it because they think it will help you and encourage you to lose weight, it may or may not be bad.

If it bothers you, sit down with them and have a talk, and explain why it bothers you. You're a big girl - almost an adult, and they should respect your wishes.

If they're doing it out of cruelty, or refuse to respect your wishes, talk to your counselor at school or your spiritual advisor. They may be able to help.

Answer 7

yes. obviously you have nothing to worry about.

my dad used to say similar things when I was your age. not to be mean or anything, just simply because that sort of age is when your hormones start kicking in a bit more and if you put weight on at this age, it gets harder to lose it. he was just warning me to keep an eye on things.

if they're coming from the same place as my parents, they're just concerned, a little too concerned maybe.

don't worry about it.

Answer 8

if you're worried then call Childline-0800 1111. ask another adult to give you an honest opinion about youre weight.  

Answer 9

I would say it is, even if you were fat. There are ways of helping over weight people without just saying “You are fat.”

If you are not fat, then they are incorrect from a technical perspective as well.

If it really bothers you, you could have your body evaluated by a personal trainer at a health club. Ask the trainer to be brutally honest. If this trainer’s final opinion is that you are not really considered fat, you could use that in a discussion with your parents. “A professional indicated to me that I was within the normal limits.”

Side note: I don’t know how big the sizes you mention actually are. That shouldn’t effect my post or my general advice though.

Answer 10

You're 15 and a UK 8 which to me sounds ideal. I know this may sound hard to do but you need to ignore what they're saying. In the long-term it could affect you emotionally and physically if you take what they're saying to heart. Especially if they're wrong.

If what they're saying is hurting you then maybe they need to know. That of course depends on your relationship with them and how close you are. If not then find someone you can talk to at your school.  

Answer 11

yh my mams sed it to me before but i tell her to shut her mouth because shes no spring onion herself =] if your happy at your weight keep it like that just tell your mam to mind her own buiness if you are offended by her.

Answer 12

even if you are overweight it's horrible for your parents to call you fat. if you can fit into a size 6 you definitely aren't fat, your parents must be mad. tell them that you find it hurtful and maybe they'll stop doing it. they could just be joking and not realising the effect it has on you.

Answer 13

Yes, it's wrong. You say you have a normal weight and BMI so your parents don't really have the right to call you fat.  

Answer 14

Well right now your not fat from the way it sounds.  You didn't give your weight or height but your clothes size seems normal.  You also said your parents are telling you that you need to watch your weight.  Did you recently put on weight?  That might make them worry about you.  I don't think that it is right for a parent to call you fat, but it is up to them to make sure that you are healthy.  If this bothers you maybe you should talk to them about it.  Let them know that it make you uncomfortable and that you don't feel that you are fat.  Maybe then they can explain their side to you.

Answer 15

That's pretty messed up.

Answer 16

that is very wrong, i think.

size 8 is very good for your age, most people your age i know are size 10/12.

i highly doubt you are fat - if anything, you're too thin!

hope this helps.