Is it wrong if i am not happy with my wedding outcome?

Question

I feel like it is selfish of me. I see everyone planning for their wedding now, I guess I just ended up being first. I didnt like our photographer, the pictures are not their best. Also, I feel like I could have done so much more, and made sure that the day was its "all". So much seems to be missing from our day. What is wrong wit me? Am alone on this? Could I have been too busy to truly miss the day??? This has been bothering me for a long time now, and its almost goign to be a year....Yet I have my husband!?!? Thats all I needed....

Answer 1

It's easy for hindsight to be 20/20.  Of course there are plenty of things that you could have done differently and it is completely normal to rethink the day and what other things you could have done.  Naturally, your wedding took a long time to plan and once it's over, you are on a wedding downer, and it's normal to then look at other people's weddings and wonder what else you could have done with yours.  But you can't change that date...but you could have a vow renewal.  And that can be done any time, any where, and under any circumstances that you choose.  So, perhaps that is something that would interest you.

But really, the point of it was to end up being husband and wife, and you are, so anything else you could have done wouldn't matter.

Answer 2

hey, escape to Las Vegas and do it all over again== in fact get married on every anniversary= what a treat that would be= someplace different every year, with the same person== on your 3rd year do it at city hall, ask the mayor ahead of time, you might get lucky== Guinness book written all over it=

Answer 3

Like you said it's a "day". One day in the rest of your life, after planning for so long it's a bit of a downer to get back to real life. Kinda like planning a vacation having a great time but when you get home you get a little depressed. Put your energies into making a warm comfortable loving home(not perfect there's no such thing) If your pics are truly horrendous make an appointment and have some formal portraits taken of you and your new husband sort of an anniversary thing. I never had a "real" wedding my husband was in the navy he drove from Bremerton WA to San Diego we went to a justice of the peace and he left the next day! We have no wedding album or momentos. But we've been married for 30 years and have a wonderful son. So be happy and look to the future, it well get better.

Answer 4

It is not wrong that you are unhappy with your wedding, it is just sad. Many many brides are not happy about the outcome of their wedding day. Some brides are unhappy that family didn't get along,or that they maybe didn't have a romantic night with their new husband, or maybe the cake fell over, or the pictures didn't turn out. There are so many scenerios that may have gone wrong. The bad news is you will have to relive these bad feelings about your marriage day every time you attend or hear about someone else's marriage, and your poor husband is going to have to hear about it. Ha Ha. The good news is, you did marry the man that you love and there are many many anniversaries that may be able to ease the pain of the one special day that went wrong. Smile and go give that groom of yours a kiss!

Answer 5

its normal to feel like you could have done it better. but you have your husband, which should be good enough

Answer 6

divorce your current husband and marry someone else, being careful of perfecting all the wedding day arrangements.  this way, you will have a perfect and beautiful day to remember. seriously, why do so many silly women put so much importance on the "party" aspect of the wedding day.  they seem to lose the meaning of the whole thing.  trust me, 10 years from now, this party will be the last thing running through your head, as you will have so many more important things to deal with.  a good marraige is more than the "party" day.  grow up.  

Answer 7

Don't worry, you are not alone.  I didn't like our photographer or pictures either.  But whatever you do, don't dwell!  You can't change anything and the most important thing is that you have a wonderful marriage as the outcome.  Don't think too much about the wedding, think about the marriage and your future together.  Those things are much more important.  I hope this helps.  =)

Answer 8

The wedding is just a day. Sure, it's significant, but what matters is the commitment you made to your husband on that day. All the rest is just "details".

You're not alone. I had a nice wedding, but it wasn't perfect. There are many things I wish I could go back and change, but it doesn't really matter. I've been married for 4 months and I love it! Just being with my wonderful husband is what matters the most. :)

Answer 9

When you have been married 5 years, do it again!  The RIGHT way!

Answer 10

sounds like you got jyped!! Have your husband agree to renew you vows!! then you can have your dream wedding!!

Answer 11

you probably have been to stressed about the day so mentally you missed it it dosn't mean your crazy or anything you just need to chill

Answer 12

its ok to feel this way if things didn't go acording to plan. I had a similar experience and it felt like things didn't go according to plan. My husbands uncle is a professional photographer. he and his wife sorta tried to run the show. I felt like it was a photography session instead of my wedding. Auntie B**** had me in tears at one point and I threw my boquet at her. I didn't get to eat, our cake was damaged and the wrong color, a seceret keeper spilled the beans that I was pregnant and it snowed...in the spring! which forced my outdoor garden wedding inside. I'm not trying to one up you or anything, just letting you know that you are not alone, it happens alot and I felt the same way. Time will heal. Adventually you'll be able to laugh about the quirks and you can plan a fabulous anniversary party someday. Now my Sister in law and my little sister are planning weddings. I too don't want things to go for them the way mine did.

Answer 13

I think that's a usual thing. When you hire a photographer you don't know exactly what quality of photos you will get. Much depends on them because it is an evident proof of your wedding. But don't be disappointed, it is the happiest day in your life.  

Answer 14

Seriously, the wedding was only the celebration of the two of you spending the rest of your lives together.  I'm sure that everyone there had a good time and really that's all that matters.  So don't worry too much about it!  If you feel like you might have been too busy to actually enjoy your wedding maybe you could plan to renew your vows on your 1st anniversary!  You could invite only a select few of your closest friends and relatives for a very small meal and ceremony.  Or you and you husband could do it alone, where it could be alot more intimate and less stressful for you!  Good luck with your new life :)