Is it wrong if i go to a g*y club tonite without my partner?

Question

Hes out of town AGAIN but i wanna go out and have a beer or 5 but is it ok to just go out with letting him know?

Answer 1

It's okay to go, but not to keep it a secret from him.  What's your motivation?  Are you looking for a one-nighter, even a little bit?  Looking to get hit on for validation?   Or just going to hang out with friends?  The fact that you don't want to tell him is very telling.  

Answer 2

if you're going withOUT telling him, then you're hiding something from him. if that's your intent, they maybe you should re-evaluate your feelings about his being away so often and approach him with that.

i'd personally say it's OK to go - if you tell him you're going. perhaps that would open the communication and help him understand your needs a little more?

openness and honesty frequently help to make relationships work.

have one for me, too, eh?

Answer 3

It depends if you have an open relationship or not.  If you do, no worries.  if not, make sure you're strong enough to without wanting to hop on a bone.

Answer 4

Is it ok? Ok with who? Would it be ok with you if HE did that? If so, then go for it. If not, don't.

Answer 5

Well I think you're free to do as you wish and its not wrong but if he asks he has a right to know what you've been up to and is probably concerned. Its a matter of respect. I think you should go but consider an alternative, rather than going alone and looking like your single and cruising go and bring some friends with you. That way in the event you should get drunk (after only 5 beers that's a hard feat) they can keep you safe and in line so you don't go doing anything stupid. But if your partner does ask then by all means tell him so he knows what you've been up to. You're entitled to do things on your own though you know and are an independent person.  

Answer 6

That depends entirely upon your relationship and the rules that you have for it with him. Would you be willing to let him do the same thing? Does he trust you and do you trust him? I'd say that out of respect you should at least let him know your plans and where you're going, just in case he needs you in an emergency or something. I'd say if you let him know, and go with the intention of having a beer and not hitting on or grinding on others, then it's not wrong. If you're tempted by that - take a friend. If your intentions are shopping around for someone new - then yes, it is wrong. Ultimately only you know your intentions and your frame of mind to make a decision and do the right thing.  

Answer 7

It worries me that you want to keep this a secret from him! There is nothing wrong with going but just tell him! By the fact you want to keep it a secret leads me to believe that you're not going for the reasons you gave! If that's the case then you might want to consider breaking up with him! Looks like you might have other things on your mind!

Answer 8

you should go and have fun it is your life and its not cheating

Answer 9

If he asks dont lie, no point in that, just tell him your going out. You dont have to be together all the time

Answer 10

it depends

What do you intend to do out there?

Answer 11

What are your real intentions: are you planning on having a beer (or 5) or picking someone up?

If you're planning on having a beer, socializing with friends and perhaps dancing -- there's no problem.  There should even be no problem telling your partner if you're simply socializing with friends.  (I don't like bars, but my partner does -- and I have no problem with him going to a bar and socializing with friends and having a few drinks.)

If your intentions are to pick someone up for s*x because your partner's gone -- you might want to step back and evaluate your relationship.  

Answer 12

Why wouldn't you let him know?  Are you keeping it from him for a reason?  If you're going out with the intention of meeting someone, then it would be considered cheating and wrong.  Break up with him before you try to meet someone new.  If you're just going out for a few beers with no other motives, why not tell him?

Answer 13

Go.

You definitely should go.

And get out on the dance floor as well.

:)

Answer 14

just tell him because when u come back all types of drunk he is gonna wonder why. I seen this happen recently all types of drama started