Is it wrong that I'm not invited to my brother's rehearsal dinner for his wedding?

Question

My brother is getting married tomorrow and all my family is at the rehearsal dinner. My sister isn't in the wedding, but my brother-in-law is. But her and her family (with 2 kids) were invited to dinner? Is it wrong that I'm upset that I'm not invited? We live in the same town, so it isn't like I'm far away.

Answer 1

My understanding is that the rehearsal dinner is for the bridal party. If your not in the bridal party then you really don't need to be there. Yes it would have nice of them to consider your feelings but it doesn't usually work that way. Is your brother-in-law a groomsman or something?  

Answer 2

That all depends in what kind of relationship your family have with each other , remember is a wedding one of those important and happy days, if you love your brother , i will send a nice bouquet of flowers with a nice note ....you know why ?      Because everyone gives what they have ...and all you have is love right ? show it , don't get mad girl , it will only give you wrinkles , just send happy energy ...God Bless  

Answer 3

They're probably trying to cut costs.... Since no one in your family is in the wedding, it's understandable why you weren't invited. I wouldn' tbe too offended. Yes, technically she should have probably invited you since you are her sibling, I woudl have, but since you aren't in the wedding, that was probably her reasoning.  

Answer 4

Usually the bridal party and their families are the ones invited to the rehearsal dinner.  You don't qualify, but with that being said you are immediate family and he could have invited you.  Maybe he didn't have the final say.

Answer 5

It is rude - but it isn't your wedding either. Yeah - I was ticked when I was engaged to the best man for a wedding and I wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner - but the singer for the wedding was invited like she was going to be his date. Then, for some unknown reason (I didn't say anything about it) - but I think my fiancee did (saying he would pay for me if he had to)- they changed their mind and I was invited and the singer sat right next to my then fiancee the whole time flirting with him and giving him her 100% attention. She was obviously embarassed when we came together and was unable to rile me or tear him away. Well, when people throw a wedding - they are not always thinking about the details about everyone else and it is impossible to keep everybody happy. So - yeah - be ticked but let it go because remember - they can't do everything for everybody and it is their wedding so they make the decisions. It's usually not personal - they just can't be thinking of every detail. The good thing is that when it's your turn - you'll be more sensitive to these things and the people involved. It's definitely not something you should argue with them or even bring up.

Answer 6

why do you need an invite its your brother, just go.

Answer 7

you brother didnt invite you but he invited his brother in law.... are you serious?! what a jerk ! i would be very angry!  perhaps you should call him and tell him how you feel? especially since your family is invited...and your his sister so you are family!

Answer 8

the only people that should be at the rehearsal dinner are the people involved in the actual ceremony. the whole point of a rehearsal dinner is to treat the people who took their time out to rehearse their part. i think its kinda rude of you to feel entitled to be there if you are not standing up.

Answer 9

You should have been invited!! What... he can take a wedding present on his big wedding day, but not even be greatful to have you around for the rehearsal?  

Answer 10

Are you guys close and do you speak to each other alot? Nonetheless, you're still family and should have still been invited, so you should have every right to be upset.

Answer 11

well if you are not in the wedding that's probably why you weren't invited. you said your sister's husband is in the wedding - so that is why she and the kids are invited.

if i were your brother, i personally would have invited you too though.