Is it wrong that I would rather adopt than give birth?

Question

Some people I have talked too think that I'm horrible for not wanting to give birth, but to me, I would rather give the love to children that haven't had any in their lives, i really would like to make a difference, is this so bad?

Answer 1

I'm probably not being objective but  ... my only grandson

was adopted from South Korea.

I couldn't love him more - or be more proud of his parents.

Answer 2

It's not bad, at all!  Who would say it is?  Being a parent is being a parent.  If you prefer to give a home to a child, as opposed to bringing yet another one into the world, then more power to you.

Answer 3

No! That's the only loving, selfless way to have a baby. It's everyone else who is being selfish and horrible by breeding their replicants to fulfill the needs of their own egos, and destroy the planet.

Answer 4

Its not bad at all. Its all about preference. I think it is very kind of you to want to help children that have it hard.

Answer 5

WOW. I cannot believe people think you are being horrible. They are stupid.

You are amazing, an inspiration! I wish their were more like you. There are a lot of unloved, uncared for kids that need someone like you to love them. Go you!

Answer 6

I love the way you think that is awesome i think if everyone was like that this world would be better off yes i am happy we got to have one of our own but we was looking into adoption as we was not supposed to have kids but yes i think your heart is in the right place

and no i do not think you are beeing mean wanting to take a child out of this world and raise them as your own

I hope it works out for you

I am glad you want to make a difference as our next child will probally have to be adopted as i have tried for a long time and still no more

Congrats on your decision and i hope it all works out

Answer 7

Personally I think it is something to be proud of. It takes a rare kind of love and compassion to love a child that isn't yours, like your own. So by adopting, you are saying you have that love and are willing to give it to a child in need. If more people had that kind of compassion, perhaps we wouldn't have so many kids growing up without a family.

Answer 8

Adopting a child is a far more selfless act than giving birth.  Think about it - approximately 80%-90% of babies born are a result of an unplanned pregancy.  Ask your parents, aunts, grandparents etc to be honest with you about their children.  How many were planned.  I am first of 6 children and my mom admits she and my dad only planned one of us (not me).  They were married and were not upset to be pregnant but 5 of 6 were not planned.

No body accidently adopts a child.  It is a deliberate and noble decision.  So many children (who are already here) need love.  If you are willing to adopt they should aplaud you.  Be happy with your decision and give that child all the love you can muster.

Answer 9

Don't pay attention. That's a noble thought and deed you want to share your love to those ready for adoption. But I've known women who suddenly feel the clock of time running out for them to at least experience the miracle of birth once and decide to get into a  frantic fertilization mode. Not cool. But you are your own judge and here's wishing you the best.

Answer 10

No! I feel the same way. I would rather love a child that's already in the world (and has no one) than bring another in. It's a great thing to do, I say you should go for it! Also, you will get to keep your figure! I think childbirth looks horribly painful and would rather just adopt.

Answer 11

Absolutely not!

With all the unwanted children in the world, the fact that you are willing to take one in and love him/her says marvelous things about you!