Is it wrong that im 16 and want to get pregnant?

Question

Well I am on birth control and my plan is to secretly stop taking them for a month so I get pregnant. I know most of your answers are going to be "Your way to young" but I want this more then anything. I know it wont be easy but I have experience in raising kids. I have 3 brothers and 4 sisters...all younger then me. they go from age 11 months to 13 years old. My one little brother who is now 3 years old I'm the closest to. Ive taken way more care of him then my parents ever did...n still do. I just think it would be nice to actually have my own. Its always hard when your having a baby no matter what age you are. Personally I think id make a great mom. Plus I have a boyfriend that ive been dating for over a year that if id get pregnant would be there to help raise his kid. So everyone go ahead and put your opinions in. I'm more then happy to hear them, even if your against it.

Answer 1

well i think you should live your life first i know you really want a kid of your own but i think that raising your brothers and sisters is enough hard work for you and you dint need to add the stress of being a pregnant teenager. get out there finish school go to college go party it up hun. when you do get pregnant your life is not your own any more you don't get to do or go as your please basically your life will be ruled by your kid and if your ready to give up a life that you haven't already lived then go ahead and attempt to get pregnant but if you want to finish school and go to college to make a better life for yourself so that your may be better prepared for another life that would be awesome.

see i got pregnant at 17 and i didn't finish school i decided to party my life away and now i have 2 kids with another on the way and i adore them so much but i want to go back to school and better myself but its hard for me to do that and take care of my kids so i had to sacrifice my desire to learn so that i could be a stay at home mom and raise my kids and i love but i do have my moments of i wish i had conversations that weren't about p**p or bugs.

Answer 2

its  nice  that u ask other people  and  since you  already know  what  most  of them  will  say, im  hoping  u realize its because u are about  to do  something that obviously wrong.



Dont  u  want  to have  fun.? you are young. u  should be  out  having  fun  with  your friends. dont  do this.

my advice is  to wait  till u are at least 20.

Answer 3

you are crazy! your being like all the other teen moms "its all about me me me and what I want" stop being selfish and think about the possible child. You cannot give a baby everything they deserve at 16.

Answer 4

i'm sure you will make a great mom... but in my honest opinion, i don't think you're ready. i understand this is what you want, i understand that you've helped raise your siblings... but there's a lot more to it, obviously. and i know you know that. are you bitter towards your parents? seems like it. it's a shame if they really are not there for your siblings and i'm guessing this is why you want to have a baby. to be there for them more than your parents are. i could be way off but that's what i'm getting. and you know, at 16 you really will have a really hard time giving your baby everything they need. i'm sure you could love them like crazy but can you pay for diapers and the million other things a baby needs..... and being sneaky about stopping birth control is not a mature move and completely unfair to your boyfriend. if he believes you are on birth control, he believes there is a minimal chance of you getting pregnant. i don't recommend you have a baby yet, but if you're stubborn and set on it, then i sure hope you don't attempt this behind his back. it's really not fair. =/

Answer 5

all you teenagers want a baby. its not a toy you know.  

Answer 6

It's not only that you are too young, but that you are "secretly" gonna stop the birth control. Sounds like your boyfriend needs to be in on the baby planning. Do you have a job, your own place, what about school? Is marriage gonna be a part of this? Does your boyfriend live with you? If not, then he's gonna be free to run around with friends while you are home with a new baby. How will you handle this? I'm married and was 23 when I got pregnant and it does change life a lot. I was badly sick for months, couldnt stand certain smells, etc. I didnt even want my husband around b/c of certain colognes he would wear. It was hard on him because we were newly married and wasnt planning a baby that soon. If we werent married, I dont know if we would have even made it. What about insurance? Think long and hard about your decision. I definitely say talk to your boyfriend first!

Answer 7

my parents died when i was very young,i raised my very young brother & sisters like a mom.but then i didnt think that hey since i m already raising kids why not have one of my own?! i know this is not what u want to hear but trust me u have already enough on ur plate & in ur house.can't u find joy in raising ur brother & sisters for now?with such a crowded house already what sort of life & love do u plan on giving the baby?there will be a right time & many times for u to become a mom but trust me when i say that u will never be sweet sixteen again.i m saying this from experience.dont bring a baby into this world only to regret it a few years from now.

Answer 8

Congratulations on your decision.  Just a few questions I'm curious about.  You going to quit school and start working full time?  How about your boyfriend?  If both of you are working (and you probably will, to afford living expenses for 3 people), how much is daycare going to cost you?  What health insurance are you going to use for your visits to the OB-GYN and the hospital costs for the delivery?  How about for the baby's pediatrician appointments?  Or are you just going to rely on the emergency room?  Or are you just going to put those on your credit card?  (Do you have a credit card?)  Are you planning on getting food stamps and welfare payments?  Your boyfriend is a minor; do you have a plan for making sure he comes up with child support?  

Other than overcoming issues of poverty, you might well be a great mom.  

  

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong to have kids at 16 but there are things you are going to miss out in life. There are so much to do as a sweet sixteen, then there's 18 & 21. You can consider that when you reach 21, it's never too late. Enjoy your life now.

Having your own kid is a life time commitment. Yes, you take care of your siblings well but u can "chuck" them back to your mum when you have enough. But with your own, whom can you chuck him/her?

But if you are willing to sacrifice the "freedom" & not regret it ever, go for it.

Answer 10

The fact your planning to SECRETLY stop your birth control just shows your immaturity!!!!

I think you need to grow up!!! You are being very selfish.....I take it your boyfriend has no idea???..Poor guy!!!

Answer 11

I had my son son at 19 was pregnant at 18. I had just finished high school when I found out i was pregnant. I was able to do fine on my own. But I think it was easy for me because I finish high school first. So finish school first. Make sure you are in a stable relationship too, as I was not. Good luck either way.  

Answer 12

Emotional maturity is the factor here, not your age. Secretly stopping your birth control shows how naive you are.. Sorry to say that, but it is in fact true!

You and you alone are the judge of how good a parent you can be, not us.. But, i warn you - becoming a parent at 16 is bloody tough.. I did it, i was all alone and unfortunately had to get help from the social, but i did in fact drag myself out of that rut.. I became a working mother of three, it was only then that i felt like a true parent, not someone who was having kids purely to sit on my bottom... You know exactly what i mean when i say this im sure!!

Whatever happens with you, take care of yourself.. x

Answer 13

If you want this more than anything, then why not wait another 5 years for when you will have more money and a place of your own.  Won't it be even more enjoyable under those circumstances?

Answer 14

Sweetie I was 22 with my first and I feel like it was too young, you need to live a little and have loads of fun before you make this life long commitment. At 16, you will end up resenting your child because you will have missed out on so many fun things and it's not fair to trap someone by secretly not taking your pills. A child deserves to be wanted and loved by a mother and father. I would focus on school, and a career at least before even considering this. I'm not going to bash you at all but I am telling you, you don't want to do this at your age. It would be a selfish thing to do. You sound like you already have too much responsibilty pretty much raising your siblings, It's time for you to enjoy life. You have plenty of time to have a child later on.  

Answer 15

A baby is forever - I was 16 once and I felt the same as you do. I thank God that I never became pregnant when I was 16. I ended up doing what I wanted to do. I went out with the girls, hung out wherever I wanted and however long I wanted without having to worry about a baby sitter and paying people to watch my child. Heck at 16 I didn't even know how to raise myself. Still living under my parents roof and rules it would have been ignorant to bring another mouth to the table that my parents would end up fending for. I got over my want for a child real quick. Now I have a daughter who I had at the age of 23 but I had a car, my own place and a good job. You have the rest of your life to have a kid - get being a kid out of your system before you try to raise one... you will only kick yourself in the butt for years to come if you don't.