Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to tell his baby mother not to call after 10p unless an emergency? ?

Question

I am a mother and I understand somethings may need to be dealt with after 10p but I dont like that she calls anytime she wants including 3am just to tell him that their 2 yr old is up and wont sleep or she calls at 11p just to confirm that he is picking up the baby in 2 days....its crazy....and he said he would tell her but then last night she called again..........its annoying ive never dealt with baby mothers and I know I need some space.........like her not calling all hours of the night....am i wrong

Answer 1

I actually got in a fight with my boyfriend babymama for poping up at his house without her child an she had the nerve to tell me its gone be other days when she come an she not gone have her child with her.An i beat her a** so its not wrong u just need to be respected so tell him. Babymama is the worse an they always tryin to be SLICK so before things get out of hand u need to address the issue

Answer 2

I dont think your wrong on some of the reasons but on others I think your being selfish. Let me explain. If she calls because the kids cant sleep I think that is an ok reason. That way she can talk to the father and see if he has any ideas or maybe he can talk to the children and calm them to sleep. If she is calling to confirm then Id say NO way! I would talk to him and let him handle the situation. I hate to say this but its not really your business to tell her. It will put her in a defense state and may make the trouble worse. Trust me. Good luck!

Answer 3

No, it's not wrong.  You are the family now and she isn't.  He has a baby with her, but they're not together anymore.  You have kids too and they need sleep.  If she's got a problem then she can deal with it unless it's an emergency.

Answer 4

Turn your ringer off. Let her wait until morning. She sounds like she is bored and just wants to be sneaky. If it happens again, you pick up the phone and tell her that you and your man are having "private time" and you dont appreciate her calling so late. This is something you need to address.

Answer 5

no your not wrong, if you feel this way, you should ask, or your frustration will built up and all things could happen after that. So ask nicely.

Answer 6

This really isn't a pregnancy question but I think you could just ask her to try and not call after 10 unless its an emergency. I understand that maybe she waits until her kid(s) are asleep to do her business but I have an unwritten rule out of respect, I don't call anyone after 10 unless I know for a fact, they are up for some reason.  

Answer 7

Nope. Not wrong at all. Tell him to let her know if its a reasonable emergency she is welcome to call if it isnt and can wait until morning have some respect and wait. argh I hate when some people are sooo mouthy

Answer 8

Honey you are in a difficult situation,but your boyfriend needs to set some limits with his ex she is trying to be annoying,sounds like she is doing a good job too.

Answer 9

you are definitely not in the wrong. his "baby mama" is no longer his girlfriend, and she has no right to call at such hours. if it was an emergency, that would be understandable, but she needs to respect the relationship that the two of you have. make sure she knows how you feel about this, or she will keep doing it. she could also still secretly be wanting him, and is unable to forget their relationship, and that could be a whole other issue.

Answer 10

It's just a general respect thing. No one should call after 10 p.m.

Answer 11

You are not being rude, she is. If he has told her, he needs to do it again. If that doesn't work, you need to tell her. Does he have a cell he can put on silent and tell her to leave a message and he will call her back?

Answer 12

heck no your not wrong gosh she dont need to call your house after a certain time. sounds like to me she just wants to talk to him. calling to say the baby wont go to sleep i could see if something was wrong with the baby she thinks she can do whatever she wants b/c she has his kid. tell her nicely the first few times after that let her have it.

Answer 13

Why would you have a boyfriend who has a baby with someone else? Are you hoping to be his next baby mama?

Answer 14

Okay-- I know you've got plenty of other people that will say you're doing wrong or whatever-- but I must tell you-- nip this in the bud!  I am on the other end of that rope!  I have a child with another man from 3.5yrs ago.  I am now remarried, and 2 new children.  My ex calls me anytime he wants for the same reasons that you just listed with the ex-girlfriend.  I've had to tell him dozens of times not to call unless there is an emergency.  He doesn't listen, and it bugs the h**l out of my husband.  In your boyfriend's defense, it's nothing he can do anything about.  He could tell that girl until he's blue in the face to stop calling, but she won't listen... I'm pretty sure about that.  I'm also pretty sure that if you get in on this, you'll be in a fight.  Here's what I've done to stop my ex lately-- I don't pick up the phone... I let voicemail get it.  If it's an emergency, I'll call back.  If not, I don't think twice about just letting it go.  If he calls again, I say I'll have him reported for phone harassment.  Tell your boyfriend to do the same-- if he won't, then that's when I would start wondering how serious he still is with her.  If he does this-- he shouldn't have a problem anymore-- and neither should you.  Good luck!

Answer 15

well, you need to look at it from her side too. she is basically a single parent, so when their son is not sleeping SHE is the one that has to be up with him, and maybe she wants him to be up to, because she feels its unfair that he gets to sleep, while she sits up all night with THEIR son. i understand what you are saying, but its not easy for her either and you need to understand and respect that too.

Answer 16

she shouldn't be calling that late at night or that early in the morning. she should know her boundaries. I'm sure she wouldn't be too happy if you called her at that time. just let her know how you feel about it.