Is it wrong to ask my girlfriend to marry me if I can't afford the ring right now. We've been together 5yrs.

Question

We have two children and I love her dearly. I want to get married, but I can't afford the ring. Would it be wrong to ask her anyway?

Answer 1

I am kinda sentimental, so if your girlfriend is sentimental, I would say wait.  The wedding ring is given by the spouse as a sign of mutual fidelity.  The circle of the ring symbolizes oneness and unity and has no beginning and no end.  It's the ultimate commitment.  This alone brings tears to my eyes and this is the one moment that she will always remember before she says "I Do".  Wait until you get the ring.  It doesn't have to be  anything spectacular if she is down to earth.  If she has had two children with you, this will not matter.  Just get wedding bands and they are not that expensive.

Answer 2

If she really loves you, she won't care about the ring.

Answer 3

Just get a cz ring for now, and the wedding bands. You can get a gorgeous set for both of you for less than $100 on eBay.

Good for you, have a wonderful marriage!

Answer 4

It wouldn't be wrong at all.

Answer 5

I think with two children there is nothing more she'd like to hear than what you just told us.  It's not the ring

Save your $$ and buy her a $20 ring from Walmart or some other store.  I got one here because I didn't want to ruin the one I have.  It wears like iron.   It won't last forever, but it will get you by.  You can find them on Ebay, too.

Tell her, you owe her one.  :)

Best of luck to you.

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Answer 6

Do something cute when you propose, like give her a ring pop or use a gummy lifesaver. That will be something she will never forget. And if you have two kids together and have been together for 5 years, she will understand the whole money thing. For the actual wedding, you could get a cheap set of bands from Walmart or off ebay. Then on one of your anniversaries, you could get her a really nice ring, of her choosing.

Answer 7

Just buy a cheap ring for now and if you want to you can get her a new, more expensive one when you can afford it. I don't think you should wait to ask her just because of the ring.  With two kids already she deserves to know you mean to spend the rest of your life with her.

Answer 8

Honey, if she loves you enough to bear two of your children, she won't say no to you offering her a legally binding commitment of love. As long as you're honest and don't try to pass off something fake as real, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. No rule book in the world says "buy an expensive rong if you really lover her".  A plain band can be very classy and clean looking. You can even let her choose something thats fits into your family budget. Bottom line? Ask her ASAP. You won't regret it!

Answer 9

Why not? You can pick out a ring at a later date, or if you really want to give her something, buy her something smaller.

You don't have to spend a lot of money on a ring. Check different websites that have engagement rings. Maybe there is something you can afford. You sound wonderful. I hope you have a great marraige.

Answer 10

Well I guess I'm strange compared to the other answers, but if a man asked me to marry him, and he couldn't afford a ring or seem to save up to buy one, then that would send up red flags in my head. I say, save up for a month or two, buy a nice ring @ Wal-Mart (they have decent priced, small diamond bridal sets) and THEN ask. Don't be tacky, because at first, yes, it's cute..but own up to the responsibility of doing it right.

Answer 11

money shouldn't get in the way of your feelings for her.

Answer 12

You don't have to get her anything big and glamourous just yet. Get what you can afford for now (even if it's just a tiny something from Wal-Mart), and upgrade later! Good luck!

Answer 13

I would think that it was something kinda spur of the moment. I always have said that I would rather have a bread ties that ment something then a ten caret diamond that ment nothing!! I would go to walmart and find something that you can afford and plan on that. I would give her something that then you can work forward. I understand that money is tight with kids I have 3 and we are planning our wedding now. I was purposed to with a ring that was paid off and it came from the heart. I would give her something that valued your love but also a symbol of your appreciation!!

Answer 14

i told my fiance if he wants to put a piece of grass around my finger i dont care, its not the ring i want its the man and i got him. i realize that as long as u have true love everything falls into place so dont be hesitant to make that step if its love. you wld be suprised how smoothly it goes. Everything just falls right into place when u put love first. it has to. also, im sure shes a sensible girl and wld rather prefer a cheaper ring from a man who truly loves her than the other way around.

btw: shes prolly dying to hear you pop that question. do me a favor and really get into it, look her deep in the eyes and be romantic and sincere. do it for the girls around the world!!! i got your back!

Answer 15

Not at all she probably wont even care about the ring- you're asking her to marry you.

:)

Answer 16

Every one of the above answers was correct. Just do it!!!

Answer 17

its about love, not money.  If she will be ok with a proposal with no ring right now then go for it.  Maybe give her soemthing, even a cheap ring, as a symbol for now

Answer 18

gosh no...go for it romance should not be dead on account of the red numbers on the bank balance. Firstly if it means that much you could give her a kitchen foil ring and she will treasure it probably as much as the replacement you get as and when. And secondly despite everything in this culture telling us diamonds and huge are good....personal and well thought out are just so much better

Best of luck

xxxx

Answer 19

No! You love her ask her! Get her like a band or whatever you can afford. Doesn't even have to be a diamond.

But a ring and tell her you love her and propose then get the real deal when you can afford it.

Answer 20

Don't let the ring stand in the way!

I used to tell my husband (obviously, before we were married) that I didn't want him to propose without a ring but that I didn't care if it came from a Cracker Jack box.  Basically, I just wanted that tangible, sentimental symbol of our love.  

Hopefully, your girl will feel the same.  Any ring will do.