Is it wrong to be nice all the time?

Question

I would say that I'm a nice guy. I don't get mad at people, or insult them. I don't like to hurt people's feelings. Yet sometimes I feel as though I'm going nowhere with this kind of personality. As I see guys that aren't really nice guys move up in the ranks and take all the credit. I think I'm too passive. How can I be a little bit more passive aggressive?

Answer 1

My friend, do not worry. I wish there were most nice people out there as you seem to be. Don't change for the worse because other people are nasty as its much more pleasant to be around kind and nice people than it is being around a*sholes. Don't worry about being too passive as maybe this is simply a figment of your imagination and if you are kind then you have been blessed. Don't change.

Answer 2

Please don't loose that part of your personality. I am not sure you have used the correct terminology for what you are wanting for yourself

The term passivepassivepassive-aggressiveaggressi... is used to describe someone who exhibits manipulative behavior within their personality. On the surface, the traits may appear as stubbornness or a polite unwillingness to agree with a situation. The end result is that the person is manipulating you to turn to their way of thinking

At any rate, what you are wanting I think is for folks not to run over you and you are wanting to stand up for your rights without being hurtful to the other person. I would think that the only way to accomplish that would be to learn that when you make a decision, then stick to it. IF folks think you are gullible, then they will use you. You don't have to loose your personality to learn to just say no. When you do have an opinion that is different from others, then learn that it is ok to have a difference of opinion without being intimidated. There's a lot you would need to change to get where you want to be, but work on it slowly.

Answer 3

yea its wrong if your nice ALL THE TIME...be nice sometimes honey. If you are nice and kind to people 24/7 they're gonna start taking advatage of you and thats NOT good....stand up 4 yourself a lil more...*wink* ♥

Answer 4

You can't help who you are. I am sure you will run into the right person who will like and love you for who you are. The minute that you decide to change, everything around you will change.  

Answer 5

There really aren't enough nice people out there. I used to be like you. I was nice and sweet, and never insulted anyone. But then I changed, and now I don't feel so great about myself. So, hun, please, stay just the way you are. Don't change for other people.

Answer 6

Yes.  Be firm when you have to..........

Answer 7

Don't be aggressive...there's not many nice guys left in the world

Answer 8

i cannot imagine nothing gets you mad, frustrated, sparks emotion of some type.  Just reading this question is making me frustrated.  Everyone has an opinion.   Everyone makes a choice to agree or disagree.  I disagree with the choice you make on being nice all the time - you want to be nice all the time.. see you are on you way - we disagree... :)  Good luck!