Is it wrong to check on your registry?

Question

Just wondering. I didn't realize that you could check on it and see what has been purchased and what has not. I know no one will know if you do, but are you supposed to let it be a surprise?

What did you do?

Answer 1

i checked mine all the time

Answer 2

are you supposed to check it?  technically no.  but here was my reasoning.  when i got gifts, i had to make sure that people actually took them off the registry.  i know a lot of my family looked at the registry, but they didn't give the regsitry papers to the cashier when checking out.  so to avoid getting 10 of the same thing (i had 4 showers!) i had to check.  i know everyone expects to get a few repeats in gifts, but as simple as it may be to return one item, returning 30 is horrible!

Answer 3

Let it be a surpirize if you like them. If you like to know what you're getting then look, it will still be a surprize when you find out who got it for you.

Answer 4

even if you go look you won't know who bought what and if you go look and people haven't purchased off of it don't be upset...  alot of the time people just get the registry to see what you want and buy at other stores or other type things... i'd say if you really want to know go for it otherwise just wait.

Answer 5

its wrong to have a registry in the first place, they are for poeple who want everything and are very materialistic. i hope someone gives you a trailer load of p**p.

Answer 6

I wouldn't check it. That is in poor taste.

Answer 7

I don't think it's wrong. This way if you notice that alot of the cheaper items are bought and big ticket stuff are still left, then that would tell you to go back and maybe add some other lower ticket stuff just in case the rest of the guests can't afford them.

All the best :)

Answer 8

Technically, no.  Make your decisions, have lots of stuff in lower price points, and then update after your shower.  

I know many of the other posters commented positively, but I have heard so many icky brides whining about why something wasn't bought yet (yes, with other invited guests nearby).  If you can keep it to yourself, then I see no problem with peeking.

Answer 9

I'd let it be a suprise if I were you-if you know what people have bought you then it will ruin the fun!

Answer 10

I checked mine daily--I just couldn't help myself! I was still thrilled by what we recieved.

Answer 11

We did it but we had three sites. I did all of ours online and had duplicates on each place we registered at by accident. We weren't exactly surprised when we opened our gifts but we were happy to know in advance what we were getting since we moved in together the week prior to our wedding and hd lots of stuff to get.

Bottom line....go for it! You wont know who got the gifts jusy only what was purchased!!!

Answer 12

Check it. You want to make sure that items on your registry are still available. Depending on how far in advance the registry was set up, some items could be discontinued or back-ordered. You could then update your selections.

Also, if you've registered for the same items at two different stores (lots of people register for china and crystal this way), then you'll want to keep tabs so that you don't end up with 17 wine glasses and 11 saucers.

:-)

Answer 13

I check mine... I know what I got but I just don't know it is from!

Answer 14

This wasn't available when I got married. However, when I had a baby 3 years ago I checked my registry all the time. I loved it. It is still a suprise because you don't know who bought what. I wanted to know what I needed to buy before the baby came.

Answer 15

I'd let it be a surprise but I did check a couple times :)

Answer 16

It's a good idea to check it periodically to see if you need to add additional items in a certain price range to it.  I would try to avoid checking it too frequently, but there is no reason that you shouldn't take a look prior to showers or the wedding itself to see if you need to make changes to it.

Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 17

I checked mine, it's fun to try to guess who will end up giving it to you. :)

Keep in mind that some people shop early -- My showers were 4 months before my wedding, I didn't get a few things that had been marked as bought. I thought hmmm, who bought them and didn't end up giving them to me!?

But, they were wedding gifts that people had bought early. :)

Answer 18

I don't think it's wrong.  I mean, it's still a surprise! You just don't know who got it for you! Plus none of it's a surprise in that regard, You already chose the gifts!   Check away, and then you can be really excited knowing you got somethings that you really wanted!   Congratulations!

Answer 19

When I registered, the people at the store actually suggested to check the registry to make sure that there's still plenty of gifts in every price range for the guests to choose from. Because of this  (and also the fact that I hate surprises, lol), I regularly check my registry. Every time something comes off of it, I get giddy and excited to see the gift in person, wondering who it's from. I also get excited when I see that the person got the item for a really good sale or bought me something similar to something I registered for but much nicer (for example, we got a deluxe Pyrex portable set when we had only registered for a basic one). My only word of caution is to make sure you don't show your lack of surprise or "dismiss" the gift quickly because you already knew someone had bought it for you.

Answer 20

Out of curiousity I would check even though i know I wouldn't be so surprised at my shower.

Answer 21

I think you should definately be checking it.  You need to make sure that you don't run out of items in a certain price range (the lower ones especially) and that you don't get doubles.  For instance, when my friend got married she wanted a certain set of pots and pans.  Well, they were twice as much at the store she registered at as the store that had them on sale where I bought them.  Because they weren't purchased at the store with the registry it never showed up on the list that the pots and pans had been purchased.  She had to go and delete them from the list after she got the gift at her shower.

There is a good way and a bad way to handle that.  Bad would be checking daily and complaining because X item hasn't been bought.  But, as somebody already said....the stuff was already picked by you so it's not much of a suprise when you get it.  You still won't know WHO bought which item or when you are getting them.