Is it wrong to choose the s*x of the child when adopting?

Question

After all, when you have a child naturally you cannot choose, but people may want a boy or a girl for a reason, e.g., they are unlikely to produce one naturally, etc.

My opinion is it's not wrong, just wanted to hear people's opinions.

Answer 1

I dont think theres anything wrong w/it at all!!

Answer 2

I don't think it's wrong.  A lot of adoptive children are proud of the fact that their parents choose them.  Gender is just another thing they can choose.

Answer 3

When you are adopting, you are trying to get a child that matches your hopes and desires. The advantage is that you get to choose certain things such as age, s*x, race, even things like eye and hair color!

On the other hand, some people are adopting because they want to give a child a better home than the one they have now. In that case, a couple may simply "fall in love" with a child and not care what some of these features or gender are.

I don't think it is wrong (morally or legally) to choose the things that would make you more comfortable with the child and thus (hopefully) a better parent.

I guess it all depends on why you are adopting. Are you saving a child from a bad home or life of despair? Or are you adopting because you want the child you simply cannot produce biologically? In either case, it is your own moral code that determines the answer to your question.

Answer 4

I would say absolutely not.  You have to remember that since you can't or choose not to have children you are still doing an incredible thing for an orphaned child.  I think since you have chose this route, by all means you can definitly choose what s*x you prefer.  Adoption is a wonderful answer for so many kids that would have perhaps a very hard life.  I say pick what s*x you want and GO FOR IT!!!  This isn't wrong, it just means you have a certain preference.  No worries.  Good Luck

Answer 5

Well, if you are adopting a child from an orphanage and not choosing a pregnant woman to adopt from, it makes perfect sense to choose who/what you want. You aren't very well going to close your eyes and spin in a circle and choose your child that way....

Answer 6

I don't think it's wrong, in adoption you are already choosing not only the child but the age,color, and background if available.. so of course the s*x factors in.

Answer 7

No I dont think its stupid... i mean, I wanted a boy and I gotta girl.. Your paying alotta money for a baby why not choose? And they ask u what u want first.. It's just like saying what race u want ur baby..

Answer 8

It is just one of the perks of adopting, you can choose.  I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

Answer 9

oh, i dont think its wrong at all.

Answer 10

I don't think it is wrong per se.  I think parents should stay open-minded, but maybe it is best that if they have a strong preference to begin with, this may help with the adjustment process.  If they have always been around little boys, maybe they would be more comfortable having a little boy first or something.

Answer 11

My personal opinion is no, it is not wrong. The most important thing is that people who adopt are giving a loving home to a child in need of loving parents.

We're planning to adopt a girl, by the way, so I'm not completely objective here. ;-)

Good luck to you if you're adopting!

Answer 12

no, your opinion is not wrong. And no, when you are adopting, there is nothing wrong with preferring a boy or girl. It is up to your liking.

However, when I adopt I plan on looking at the issue of the child, not necessarily the s*x.

Answer 13

no i think some people need to choose.  It is really up to the adoptees.

Answer 14

well it is your choice and you ARE the one that will be raising him/her. So i guess depending if your reason is good enough then its not wrong unless its a sexist reason. The sad thing is there are so so many kids out there put up for adoption waiting to be adopted and unwanted because they're either a certain age, race or s*x.

Answer 15

I don't think it is wrong, but probably a lot of couples will take whatever is available, but probably state their preferences.

Answer 16

I don't think it's wrong so much, but then again it depends on what's important to you. I would think that if you wanted a child that really should be the least of your concerns, they are not toys on a shelf.

Answer 17

I dont think it is wrong to have a preferance but if someone wanted a boy and would nto be willing to ahve agirl that would be werid if you want a baby you bad enough you should take one.

Answer 18

I don't think it's wrong either. Some people have preferences like what race and age they'd want a child to be so I wouldn't think s*x is wrong either.

(Of course all of that would fly out the window if I was able to make a connection with a child, regardless of their s*x, age and race.)