Is it wrong to do this to a guy?

Question

Um, I have a boyfriend whom I love very much and who loves me. Um...I don't have that many female friends because...just because and most of my close guy friends have had crushes on me at one point or another though not all. Last year, I lost a lot of my closest guy friends...it shattered my heart a bit but I had to lose them in order to lose my ex boyfriend. Um, there's a new guy that wanted to ask me out the day my boyfriend and I got together. I'm not attracted to him emotionally or physically or anything but I think he makes a really great friend because he understands me pretty well. Is it...bad for me to talk to him a lot because it makes me feel happier even though it might make him feel...stuff? He knows I have a boyfriend and I talk about my boyfriend too. I would NEVER cheat emotionally or physically. Umm..but am I being selfish for allowing this guy to want to talk to me and stuff..?? :(

Answer 1

Just make sure that the guy clearly understands the "just friends" part. Most young guys are completely clueless about what signs women display as far as interest and which are just plain friendly. And if a guy is really interested and really clueless, he'll decide absolutely everything is a sign that you might be interested.

You're just worried about possibly leading him on. Don't. You're just out for friendship and aren't leading him on or anything. You've made it clear you're just interested in him as a friend. If he decides to make more of that, it won't be your fault or something you should feel guilty about. Just be absolutely sure you don't flirt or lead him on in any way and you're in the clear.

Answer 2

Yes, you are. So just tell him you like him as a friend, and hope to keep your friendship.