Is it wrong to feel annoyed at this?

Question

my school is really strict about everything, from uniforms to hair and makeup

I really wanna cut my hair and get a side fringe and maybe another colour...but i can't beacause it wont be alowed at school...they don't want hair hanging in our faces and no matter how short the girls hair is, it HAS to be put up in a pony tail or plait...but its really hard for me cause its just past sholder length and layered, so it takes ages each morning to get it up in a pony tail...

When i first got my hair cut ( from long to short, i wanna get it even shorter now. ) the first day i went back to school i almost got suspended...

is it wrong that i feel annoyed at the principle for making the rules and being so strict...sometimes i feel like i'd rather get in trouble for having my hair the way i want it than having to have it their way...

my mother told me i should just ignore it...but i really just wanna change myself to gain some self confidence and stuff...but the more i get in trouble at school ( mostly for nothing...the principle dosnt like me cause im different... ) the more my self confidence goes down and the more depressed i feel...

is it wrong that im getting sad over this??

Im a 14 year old girl and I can't wait to get away from this school...

Answer 1

i think you should have your own opinion on everything and i think your right about your prinipal being way to strict... have you talked to the principal or your mom yet i think you should..

Answer 2

hi. in my school in london, girls are allowed to do what they want with their hair. Why do you have to wear pony tails. is it a private school? How long do u have left. if it is only a year don't worry. time will fly by. wait till u go to your next school/college and make sure they're not too strict. and don't get depressed about not being able to cut your hair how you want to. your hair is not who you are. just be how you are at home at school. and to gain self confidence join some clubs and if you don't have any friends(which you probably do) be friends with some people who are the sort of people you get along with. I'm fifteen and i get treated not that great by people at my school. I'm a boy and i no all this stuff because i have a few girls who are my friends.(i'm not g*y). i used to have no confidence but i gained it because i was who i am. hope i helped and i hope i dont sound lk some crazy freak

Answer 3

that sucks.  feel free to feel annoyed.  i know what you mean i just cut my hair from long to short and i can only get a little tiny bit in a pony tail.  the rest hangs down, and i would have to put like 10 clips in it.  or more.  i take it you go to catholic school?  i used to go to episcopal school and they were less strict but i still hated it.  we had to wear collared shirts tucked in with a belt (gross), and we were only allowed to have 1 piercing in our ears.  as soon as i got out i got my cartilage pierced haha.  so no, its not wrong, i would be sooo mad.  hopefull youre an 8th grader and only have 1 more year not a freshman with 4 more.  if you are, my heart goes out to you.

Answer 4

My cousins went to a school that was very much like yours (hair in ponytails, no nail polish, no jewels, etc) and they felt the same way. Their solution: Come home and let your hair down and style it the way you want. And on the weekends when going out with family or friends wear nail polish, jewelry, let your hair down and just have fun.

They can only limit your individuality for 8 hrs a day but you still have the rest of the day and the weekend (Saturday/ Sunday).  

The principal has these rules because she is asked by her boss to do so. Even she has people to answer to. Don't get annoyed at her or the school. Go there to learn and then on your own time have some fun!!

Answer 5

omg..i thought my school was strict! feel whatever way you want about it...i would feel ticked and upset...i would want to break out of that school too!!!i would just where fun jewelry and cool shoes if that is the only way to express myself..unless that is against the rules at your school cause then your school is seriously screwed up...

     hope i helped,

                    rinski-roodle advice