Is it wrong to feel like this?

Question

I am with my first boyfriend. I searched a long time to find someone on internet that I was able to connect with. We had many dates before we sleep together. His personality and ethics are akin to my own.

But s*x between us is not good and I have found that we seem not to be compatible.

At 19 years, I want to have lots of s*x and I look forward to enjoying it, but do not with my boyfriend. Everything other than s*x is good. I feel very guilty for feeling this disappointed. Has anyone else been in this situation?

Answer 1

Lux that seems a bad situation...however you have already recieved some really good answers from the group....Try doing everything u can to make him feel really good....be really affectionate....fondle him and make him know how much you love him...talk to him.....especially after some good s*x...tell him what u need in the relationship...if he doesnt respond then I am sure u will know what to do....

Answer 2

Couple of options

1) Dump him.  But that's not a good idea because he seems like he could be a great friend

2) Sit down and talk to him.  Its awkward to do, and you need confidence to do it, but you could explain what you dont like.

3) Take control.  When you're in bed, you take the lead and do the stuff you like.  Guide his hand/mouth/etc to wherever you want it to go and to whatever you want it to do.  Bottom line, be adventurous, you might surprise yourself, and him

If I was in your place, I would try #3, then #2 and finally #1

Answer 3

Sort of, I wasn't particulary happy with my s*x life with my first boyfriend but it was more so towards the ending.  What is it you don't enjoy maybe you can have him try something different that will turn you on more.  Just tell him what you like, be open and honest with him. Do the same for him, ask him what he likes and try and do that for him. :D

any other question feel free to email me

Answer 4

I've never been a position like that, but if i was it would make me feel better if i tried to do something about it with my partner, indulge in some foreplay etc.

don't try and find s*x elsewhere unless you partner is aware and/or agrees, it could just make things worse...

Answer 5

it's never wrong to feel something!! personally i think that s*x is an important part of a romantic relationship & i dont think that ur intentions are sleazy or shallow in any way. in future maybe try meeting people in places other than the internet cuz it's easier to figure out whether you will connect with them, than if u have never met them.

good luck with whatever you choose to do!!

Answer 6

no I haven't. but I'm 15 so I might be in it someday. i think u guys should be just friends, and both go out to a g*y bar together so you can meet other people, but still have a friend to talk to.

Answer 7

no, but maybe you could talk to him about it and tell him what you want out of your s*x life?

Answer 8

yeah, there's really not much you can do.