Is it wrong to hate someone, or under certain circumstances, can it be justified?

Question

With all due respect of belief and opinion, please don't answer this question with anything about what the The Bible or God says...

Please display your own reasons of justification.

Answer 1

Hate only hurts YOU, and it's pretty pitiful if HATE is your SHIELD.  You haven't learned anything if so.

Think about it.  You can hate someone but what exactly does that do for who you hate?

NOTHING.

But it EATS you up alive.

Yes I suppose you can be angry enough to hate someone for a while...but if you choose to carry that hate with you like a ball and chain you are the only one who will suffer for it.

What's best is to analyze your feelings, learn from the experience and move forward with it.

With a lot of life experience you will realize you can't carry all those toxic emotions around with you.  They will kill you.

So just learn, be a little wiser for the experience and remember this, most times, that person you hate is really pretty pitiful.  You'd be much better off feeling pity for them.

If you hate someone because they made a FOOL of you, then just admit you had a flaw in character too, live and learn and move on.

Answer 2

Hate is justified if someone has harmed you greatly in some way.

It is not wrong at all.

Answer 3

Hatred is one of the most destructive of all human emotions.  It accomplishes nothing to the good and it only harms both the one who's being hated and the one who hates.  Hatred is like a cancer that eats at the soul.  It is hatred which causes war.  It is hatred which makes people kill each other.  

Answer 4

It's not wrong to hate someone sometimes.  There are unfortunately some really rotten people in the world.  If someone does something bad to you, you have a right to be angry and/or hate that person.  As a result, you also have a right to not have anything to do with them in the future.  People may say to let go of your hate, but that's because holding all that can further hurt you more and is a burden.  But yes I think hate is a normal response to an abnormal interaction with someone.

Answer 5

I used to believe that hate was just plain wrong. That was before I married my first husband.

There was a time that all he had to do was ask for the moon and I would have a way to have it gift-wrapped and delivered to him.

But after seven years of continuous physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, and spiritual abuse, he drained me dry of all love and forgiveness. I just wanted him out of my life. No hate yet. Just dry and tired of his abuse.

Then I found he was doing the same thing to the kids. s*x abuse included.

After two very nasty custody battles that finally ended when he terminated his legal parenthood just to escape the s*x abuse allegations, I found that hate can sometimes be justified and sometimes even necessary to protect yourself and those close to you.  

Answer 6

I believe it is justified in extreme circumstances, but ordinarily the hatred we feel for other human beings has more to do with our own insecurities and the fact that we allow these individuals to push our buttons, so to speak. In that case the only justification for hate is in our own minds, so it's best to let it go. Killing those we hate with kindness is so much easier than killing ourselves with hatred for others.

Answer 7

It is right to hate someone. If someone does something wrong to other people, people will naturally hate him. It is a natural reaction and serves to alienate and/or harm the person you hate and reduce his quality of life. It doesn't make sense to be neutral about him/her or like him/her, you want that person out of your life. The hate feeling serves that purpose. It serves to allow you to vent anger on the person to indicate your dislike of his/her behavior.

If someone killed a relative of mine, there would be hate. It is a very natural reaction and I could desire revenge on him. However, in modern times, this would be done through the legal system. The idea of justice is simply to allow the victims justice more than stop the criminal from doing it again.

However, an enlightened person might realize that behavior has a biological basis and is affected by genetics, illnesses such as schizophrenia, culture and upbringing. If you understood everyone and why they do the things they do, you probably wouldn't hate them.

Answer 8

I think that if someone has truly wronged you to the point where forgiveness is not an option, there are definitely circumstances where it's justified. I admit that hate is a very strong word and I try to stick to a personal philosophy of "forgive, but never forget". Hate just takes too much energy and generally tends to be more frustrating for you as it's kind of wasted energy that you could put towards living life and making that person all the more miserable when they see how happy your are with your life. No one can tell you how to feel, but just realize that no one is worth the energy that goes into a lifelong, hateful grudge.

Answer 9

well..some people have a hate-love relationship.  

Answer 10

If you hate someone, you are cutting yourself off from that part of the world.  Usually, this is not to your advantage.

Answer 11

Yes you may Hate someone,forget what the Christian do gooders say.check this out.

I had a brother file a false police report on me and the investigators came to my place of business and interviewed me in front of other employees and customers.Naturally they found out what he did was false but it hurt my reputation and standing in my community.The real kicker is my mother and sisters all knew about it and did nothing until he did the same thing to them.Needless to say I  have disowned my entire family.Even though they want me to forgive them I can assure you that is never going to happen.With family like them I don't need a family.

Answer 12

It you can justify it in your heart and you mind, then it can be justified in exceptional circumstances. If you can do that you don't carry any feelings of guilt or other baggage around with you.

Answer 13

I am going to ignore you and answer like this:

According to Christianity, hate can never be justtfied. But I think if you're not Christian, or any other religion which has the same belief, then it's OK to hate if it's REALLY extreme.

Answer 14

Hatred is in no way justified.  To hate is to equate human life with worthlessness.  One may hate actions or tendencies, but hatred of a human is a crime against humanity.