Is it wrong to have an only child?

Question

i would love to hear off you guys what you think about only children and wether its wrong to just have one or is it best to just have one and then you can put all you energy and efforts into making sure they turn out well. i would be gratefull for your answers.

Answer 1

No. I think its wrong to have any children to tell you the truth.

Answer 2

It just depends, on your first child's temperament, financial situation, patience level etc. Speaking as a only child (well almost, my only sister is 18 years older then I am and never played with me), I would want to have at least two because at times, I was very lonely, especially after my sister and niece (my niece is 14 months older then me) moved away, I have two cousins close to my age, but I rarely saw them, and even though I had god-siblings (the one closet to my age was 8 years older then me) I wanted a brother or sister since I was 4. My single mom was diagnosed with fibromaylgia when I was 4, and couldn't play with me, I remember days she couldn't even get out of bed, so I didn't have anyone to talk to or play with, I also grew up faster then I should of. I think having two kids about three years apart would be okay, but again this depends on your child's temperament and other things.

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong w/ having 1 kid, 5 kids, no kids.  As grown adults we should all do what's best for us individually.

As for what I think of only children, I happen to be one.  The sterotypes of only children being spoiled, selfish, lonely little maladjusted people is dead wrong (and has been proven as such).  In fact, I feel I developed many positive traits from the experience.

Being an old child taught me confidence. I had to make friends on my own.  That means I've always been confident enough to walk into a room of strangers & socialize without hesitation.  

Being an only child taught me independence.  Taking care of myself was instinctive.  Its what I always wanted most.  So by the time I was in high school, the spending money in my pocket came completely from my own part time job.  I paid for my 1st car on my own.  The same held true w/ my apartment in college.  And my wedding years later, followed by my house.  I haven't asked my parents to help me out financially since I was 18 years old (when I applied for undergraduate.  I paid graduate on my own).  They've offered assistance many times.  But I'm fully capable, thanks.  I know I got that attitude from being an only child.

I adapt quickly to change.  I can comfortably be alone or w/ other people.  And with only one child, my parents could afford to provide me w/ a top of the line education.

Personally, being an only child has benefited me greatly.  My parents did me no disservice whatsoever by not providing siblings.

Answer 4

there is nothing wrong with having one child, if thats what you want do it do not listen to anybody else its your life

Good luck x

Answer 5

No.. I have 2 and soon to be 3.. when I had my first I didn't know what I was doing.. Then I thought about her having a play mate so I had another... This third one not so sure..

Answer 6

Putting all your efforts into raising just one child is no guarantee he will "turn out well."

The number of children you have is between you, your spouse, and God, but since you asked for opinions- I think the emotional and developmental benefits of having siblings far outweigh the material advantages of not having to share resources between children.

Answer 7

I am an only child and I really find it interesting when other people who are not only children say that only children are "lonely, spoiled ."ect and as one person refered to  here Under developed emtionaly and/or socially.

If you can only afford to have one child (financially and emotionally just have one)

They will still have friends and relatives and will only be unsocial if you raise them that way .

As long as you caref or, nurture, and teach your child or children right from wrong( no matter how many you have)   and set a good example for them without smothering them they should turn out well but nothing in life is gauranteed.

Answer 8

No there nothing wrong having one child ; a good question you can ask yourself ; How I would feel if I had been a only child / I am the mother of 5 grown boys ; and they told me many times ; that it was the most precious gift I gave them ; 4 brothers ; but if you think you cannot love a second child do not have one

Answer 9

I wouldn't say its wrong necessarily, but I would never do that to my kids. We have 2 boys and would like one more in the next few years. I hear people say sometimes that they are afraid of what it will be like to have more than one to care for in fear of their first born being ignored..but its really not like that at all. You shouldn't view it as a punishment, but more as a gift. When someone has siblings to grow up with, they are life long built in friends who they can experience memories with. When the parents are gone, the siblings still have each other to carry a family on. I have a sister and 3 brothers and I could NEVER imagine not having them in my life. Siblings sometimes don't get along when they're younger always, but as you grow up, you usually become closer and better friends with your siblings. My sister and I are only 13 months apart and we fought when we were younger, but now we are soooo close and I can't imagine what it would be like without her. I seriously think having a sibling for your child(ren) is a precious and irreplaceable gift. I think everyone deserves a brother or sister to have for life.

Answer 10

It's not "wrong", but as one of three siblings, I think only children miss out on a lot.

Answer 11

I think it's great you only want one child.  You can devote all of your energy and love to him/her.  My husband is an only child and other than not having the best sharing skills, lol, he's a great person - love him to death!