Is it wrong to have your own children instead of adopting?

Question

Overpopulation is real. In effect aren't couples who have their own children choosing to replace or throw away another child's life?

Answer 1

I think people should make the choices that are right for their family, and not what would seem "right" to others.

That being said, I would prefer that you not phrase this question this way. It implies that those of us who chose to adopt do not have our "own children".

I adopted both my kids, they are my own.

Answer 2

I guess I don't understand the viewpoint of people who think that adopted children are "different" than birth children.  Your kids are your kids.  Simple as that.  You have ups and downs and love them for who they are.  I've been an adoptive mom for over 17 years and don't believe there is a difference.  Blood doesn't make a family - love and commitment to the child are what matters!!

Answer 3

No their is nothing wrong with wanting your own children.i am adopted but i have my own children.Had of i had not been able to have a baby i would of chosen the option to adopt.everyone has different perspectives as they go through different experiences.

Answer 4

Personally, I would not reproduce - if I did I would feel rather guilty. If I ever decide to have children, I'll adopt an older child from the domestic foster system. Am I happy I was born? Yes. But that doesn't stop me from cringing at seeing people with 7 or 17 children. I try my best not to judge others and I would never say anything offensive, but I'm not going to drool over the baby pictures.

Answer 5

God wants you to have children to love. It is also the right thing to do to adopt. If you really feel bad about it you can have your own kids and adopt, too. Then everybody is happy.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with having your child over adopting.  In fact, where the chain of events crumbles is when irresponsible, or incapable people have s*x while ignoring the potential consequences.  All of a sudden, they find themselves as parents... unfit ones, at that.

Over-population is a result of these irresponsibles not having the sense to just keep their legs closed.  It is not the responsibility of the general public to clean up the mess caused by these irresponsibles.  People need to be held accountable for their own decisions... even if the consequences are life-long.

Answer 7

No conceiving a child is human nature and God-willed.  It's not wrong to want to conceive children rather than adopt.

When an AP thinks this way, it does not benefit the children.

Answer 8

no. i have a daughter she is 2 and she adopted. but in the future i plan on having my own children. i adopted her because her mother lost custody of her. she then later commited suicide

Answer 9

No, it is the most normal thing in the world. Although their are kids without parents and who are 'unwanted', its no-ones fault but the parents. There are million of couples who cant have kids who can adopt these children

Answer 10

its a personal choice...not wrong by me...just human nature

Answer 11

It sounds like your heart is not 100% into adopting.  My advice is don't adopt, its not fair to the child.

Answer 12

That is a pretty ignorant statement in my opinion.  Adoption is a beautiful thing and I think it is a great choice for some families but giving birth to a child and knowing it is a piece of you is just as amazing.  There is room for both in this world and both have a very special place in the world.

Answer 13

No, if you want your own kids have your own, but if you feel that way about having your own and your throwing away another's life then adopt a kid. That actually is kinda' throwing away the chance for your own kid to have a life. Your opinion matters the most in this decision, so you do what ever seems right to you and your husband. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 14

No.  That sounds ridiculous to me.

Answer 15

Nothing is wrong .. it's all a personal decision on what you want to do .. you can do both ...adoption is not easy and it's not for everyone .. its really a personal decision.

Answer 16

Some people and groups do feel this way.  Zero Population Growth was a very real and very serious movement at one time.  There are way too many people trying to inhabit this earth, and by continuing to populate, we are adding to the problem.  However, I feel that it is our right as humans to make the decision to have or not have children, adopt or not adopt chidren.  Yes, we should be responsible, and personally, a pet peeve of mine is these people who go on TV for taking drugs to have 6 preemie children at once and  becoming overnight celebrities are not being responsible to their children or anyone else.

Answer 17

That really depends on what your reasons would be for adopting, and how you feel about adoption.  If you don't feel that you could love an adopted child, treat them as your own, always tell them the truth, make sure they have their own information as early as possible, find out about the grief/loss/separation issues they are facing, and feel confident that you can deal with these things, then having biological children would be better in the long run.  However if you can do the above list of things, and if you're thinking of adopting a waiting child (i.e. foster care), then adoption would be a great thing.  That's part of mine and my husband's reason for adoption.  We've worked with kids for years, we've taken care of disabled family members, we've got what it takes...why not?  What would be the purpose in creating more mouths to feed, when we could take care of some that already exist?