Is it wrong to keep little secrets in a marriage? ?

Question

I don't let my husband into my phone because he erase things and forget to tell me and I told him don't use my phone and I wont use his. The other thing is he is so jealous. I wont let him read my email because he makes a big deal out of it.

Answer 1

Yes it's wrong to keep any secrets. If there was nothing to hide there would be no problem with him knowing.

Answer 2

He is jealous because it is HE that it hiding something!

It's called a guilty conscience.

Answer 3

yes,why would you get married and keep secrets anyways?marriage is not about that.

Answer 4

Every one has secrets!  What he or she does not know won't harm him or her!  Thats why there is Top Secret in the military!

Answer 5

yes

Answer 6

He needs therapy for his insecurites and controlling ways.

Answer 7

Only stupid little secrets like the price I payed for a cute pair of shoes.  He asked me if I got new shoes and I said,"These old things?" Harmless secrets like that are nothing.

Answer 8

Every girl is in titled to have a secret in their life.

I know that i have mine. :]]

Answer 9

If you are hiding phone numbers and e-mails from guys, then it is because there is something to hide that is not right and you know it.He knows it and this is why heis suspicious.

This will eventually end in divorce.

Answer 10

I have nothing to hide from my hubby but, i don't let him into my e mail he don't let me into his. We don't look into the others cell unless their is a reason. It's called personal space. My hubby and i both like our own things. Remember if you don't want him into yout things you have to allow him his Privacy to. Let him know you don't like it you are hiding nothing from him. I hate my hubby to read over my shoulder when i'm online don't matter if i'm looking at a news article or my e mail i like my own space my hubby has been respectful of that i respect his space. 13 years of marriage we don't share even a bank account. We both are not into conjoined everything we are still seperate people. I have no care no reason to see his e mail he has none to see mine. Also i don't think of it as hiding a secret. I hide nothing. YES TO HIDE IS WRONG to hide means your not being truthful.

Answer 11

Personally as long as you aren't hiding important things he should know like maxing out credit cards, or not paying the bills, or having a boyfriend on the side, I don't think it is wrong to keep some of your self private like your thoughts, cell phone calls & emails unless they are from again an affair &  your hiding it? If you don't want him to access your phone or emails use a password so he can't

Answer 12

I don't believe in keeping secrets in a marriage... there are some things that might be better left unsaid, but forbidding a spouse to go into your cell phone or e-mail, although it is a form of invasion of privacy, you shouldn't have any reason to not allow him into your stuff.  If you have something you are trying to hide, which to me it sounds like there is, then your marriage has bigger issues than just keeping him out of your cell or e-mail.  There shouldn't be anything in your call log, messages or e-mails that would upset him.  Honesty is always the best policy in a happy, healthy, satisfying marriage.  

Answer 13

well that depends on your definition on little secrets...

coz if your idea of a "little secret" is sleeping with his best friend you got a little bit of an issue

  

Answer 14

It depends on the secrets.

I have no secrets.  But i have tons of communications that no one in their right mind would be interested in. I don't delete anything, ever - even spam.

And i don't look at my spouse's email or phone, unless they're broken and i've been called in to fix them.  It happens.  I even fix the in-law's email.

Answer 15

well if he was doing the things you are doing would it bother you? if you are keeping secrets then you are doing something you think feel and know you shouldnt be doing

Answer 16

As long as they are innocent secrets, and you're not hiding anything that matters, like an affair or something.  My mom once told me "The secret to a happy marriage is knowing what not to tell your husband".

Answer 17

my hubby does not touch my pc and i don't touch his. but i am not hiding anything. and i trust him. ... i don't know i tell my husband everything.  5 years together

Answer 18

YES it is wrong. You have to be completely honest for a marriage to work. Communication is the key to a long lasting  marriage. The secrets will haunt you at some point in the future.  

Answer 19

Being overly suspicious or protective are not assets for a marriage. However, they are great assets for a divorce.

Answer 20

It's wrong to keep secrets in a marriage, but there's always little things that aren't necessary to be telling your spouse. Some things because of the other person's character or personality could be left out of a conversation. I'm sure your husband always tells you you're beautiful, but in fact some things he may not find attractive. If a guy on the street winks at you, it's best not to start an argument by telling him a stranger you'll never see again winked at you. Only the things that could affect a marriage are important to share with your partner. The little things could be left out. LEFT OUT, NOT KEPT A SECRET!

Answer 21

hi there maria cutey.

it's ok to keep secrets, but make sure that they are not serious secrets.

explanation? ok..here goes

that you had s*x before:  secret

that you had plenty of boyfriends before:  secret

that you had a same/s*x experience:  secret

that you got drunk and did the wild thing all night long with a few people: secret

I can go on and on, but here are some that are NOT ok to keep a secret

that's your a child molester: no way..DO TELL

that you got raped earlier in life: no way..DO TELL

that you've got a restraining order on someone: no way..DO TELL

that someone vowed to get even and get you, or kill you: duh..DO TELL

that you've got a love child hidden somewhere: TELL

that you received an std that can be contagious immediately: TELL!

got it? good.

Answer 22

yes i think it would be wrong to hold little secrets in a marriage they compound and it could turn into lies, When and if the secrets has been found then the question would be why did you have to lie to me.

Answer 23

Yes its wrong, if he thinks you are hiding something, trust issues will develop QUICKLY.

Answer 24

He should respect your decisions. If there is trust in you marriage, then it should not be a problem. Some things are off limits...no matter if you're married. Your calls and your emails are private...