Is it wrong to love someone who is married, what if he don't love his wife at all,?

Question

this marriage is just a responsible for his children's sake.

Should this love story carry on, they loved each other very much and can't live without each other, this man got big fight with his wife 3 years ago because he want to be with his lover, he is very tired of his marriage, his lover didn't know he is a married man until he confessed himself last month, he told his lover he was afraid she will leave him if she know the truth, he is struggle dont't know what to do.

Answer 1

I TOTALLY agree with n2mama. If he really loves you and want to be with you. He would long ago divorce with his wife and wed you. Just a total pack of lies he is telling you. He just want to have 2 holes to s***w....lol

Answer 2

It never ceases to amaze me that a man or woman who falls for someone cheating on their spouse. Then has the audacity to think they won't do the same to them. Now "That's Bold B/S".........

I carried an ole flame to get some night clothes & return home. We walked in her B/F laying in bed. She's getting things togather & he says, "Hey Baby what ya doing?" She tells him, and this lil' fellow sittin' on my shoulder says, "Hey Dummy!!, What the h**l makes YOU think YOUR so "Special?" Especially when this guy is 15+ yrs my JR.

Well "Dummy" kept thinkin' w/p***s that night!! But by the next mornin'

"I CAN SEE CLEARLY NOW!! THE HARD IS GONE........LOL

Answer 3

he's lying so he can have his cake and eat it too....oldest story in the book.....he loves his wife (I use the word love loosely since he is cheating) and is not going to leave her.....

Answer 4

wow, i've never heard a story like this (sarcasm)

ALL cheating men don't love their wives and are only in marriages "for the children's sake" and are madly in "love" with their mistresses and want to divorce their wives but..blah blah blah

i really like that part about his not telling his mistress that he was married for HER sake and that she never figured it out in 3 years.

please

Answer 5

Apparently HE can  live without HER, because he's doing it. He was right to fear she would leave him if she knew. That's what she should do now. He lied (same thing) about the most important part of his life. He is NOT going to leave his wife, and it's not "for the kids." Bail. Now.  

Answer 6

Another I love a  married man story !

This married man is out for extra curriculum

This is a sporting event to him

He  loves to fish with with his wife, but now he wants to play golf with you

Some married  men lie 99.9%of the time

they want new meat

He is a liar

He should have told the lady he was married

Why doesn't he get a divorce?

He says he does not love his wife

He is lying again!

Do you  trust a liar ?

The married man and their wife's are attached forever when kids are involved

Alimony,  child support payments, graduations, birthdays, weddings, grandchildren, funerals

The old in-laws never go away

Talk about Baby Mama Drama !

Love story?

What love story are you talking about ?

This is a Lie story!

This is a terrible mistake

Too much d**n drama..no happy ending in sight.. RUN.... away from this madness

He will never marry you.. Why.?

. because you cheat.. and he does not  want you cheating on him!

Answer 7

Wise up. He is telling you this stuff to keep you around. If he was really that unhappy in his marriage he would end it. Rest assured he likes having his wife and keeping you on the side. So, I guess my answer is yes. It is wrong for you to keep on with this relationship with a married man.

Answer 8

If he didn't love his wife he would have been divorced a long time ago. The lover did know they just didn't want to face it. He screwed around and is now affraid that his wife will leave him???? He is a sad horrible person and his lover is a ho as long as she stays with him.

Answer 9

Than they start seperated lifes first and split off. If not, he/she still can not live wthout the other one and your luck will be from a short time. If he/she really not want to have their relationship anymore it is for sure no good idea to jump into the next relationship immediatly.  

Answer 10

If he is still living with her then yes it is very wrong.

Answer 11

u can love who ever u want. there is no rule on who YOU can love. the problem is can they be with u and love u back?? in this case how do u know of wat he's saying its true. for all u knew he was a single man and last month all the sudden u find out he's married and been married for yrs and "supposedly" its for he's kids sake. i know there are MANY ppl out there who have gotten divorce bc they no longer LOVE each other.

Honestly i don't want to break ur bubble and hope that this guy really told u the truth but the truth is. u don't really know the truth and its up to u wether u want to believe him or not. but if u end up believing him and he ends up not leaving his wife and u end up being the misters like u r now, u will get really hurt but at least not clueless bc u already know everything.  

Answer 12

One cannot love to order. If he has to go, he has to go. Vice versa for the female. Do not do things at their partner's expense. People who cheat are so condemned. If they have really grown out of love for their spouse, they should let their spouse know, so that they can get a divorce in time and the guilty party can then carry on being with the said third party. Good luck to all.

Answer 13

is nv wrong in a way to love though...depending on each individual cases.

wow!!! u got d guts for A WOMAN in a small city here to put up ur pics all over d web. is kind of not so rite especially for a woman...be careful...perhaps u already know wat u will be expecting b4 u put up ur pics.

nice pics, BTW

good luck...

Answer 14

Loving a married man is wrong, however we cannot help who we fall in love with. Let me suggest a website for.

www.gloryb.com

Answer 15

Old question with similar answers. That is such a bored. This is the 21st century. There is no more so call right or wrong. Human relationships are getting more & more complicated. It common such things happen day by day.  

Answer 16

Yes, it's wrong to love a married man.  He can tell you it's for the sake of the children, but the truth is, if he wanted to be divorced, he would be.  He's got the best of both worlds right now, and you're playing along.  If he truly was tired of his marriage and wanted to be out of it, he would be.

Answer 17

Follow your hearts. Is never wrong to love somebody.

Wish You Well!

Answer 18

It is so wrong, now that she knows she should leave him and not believe any of his lies. Men think that this is the way to have two life's don't believe him, this happened to my friend and know she is leaving in her own misery, she married him and he did the same thing to her.  

Answer 19

no, its not wrong to love...but the situation that the girl (The man's true love) was WRONG.

it depends upon the situation. and i think its hard to decide (In the man's part)...if the marriage is not working now, then its better to talk about it...have a conversation and fix things out. the wife and the husband should think about the future or the sake of their children (Of what would be happen to their kids if they will divorce or whatever)...they should think carefully about it. because for the kids, (I'm pertaining at their possible feelings)...its hard for them to live with no mom or dad...unless if one of the parent will still visit once or twice a week or will still give financial, moral and emotional support.

but IF THE CHOICE was MADE (like the man wants to end the relationship with the wife...)

but first, this decision should be agreed by both parties (Husband and wife agreed to live separately and there was agreement like either the husband or wife are allowed to visit the kids every weekend)

then, if the things are clear, all they have to do is to move on (And the man can live together with the one he loves now.)

but the girl (The husband's true love) should remind him still of his responsibilities to his children and help him to build himself again, she must not forbid the man to see the kids...because he's still the FATHER of his children after all.

but before they decide, they must think twice about the situation. because it might not only affect each other (Husband and wife) but they could also affect people around them. so choose what is right...

don't forget to pray. don't make hasty decisions...and the most important: FOLLOW YOUR HEART and DONT FORGET THE RESPONSIBILITIES.

God bless and Good luck

Answer 20

If he really loved his so called lover..He wouldn't have lied to her about being married and would have divorced his wife already....It is foolish to be involved with someone who is married...and it matters not that they are only married because of the children....what a load of c**p!

Answer 21

YES, YES, YES! ! IS WRONG!!! LEAVE HIM ALONE.

Answer 22

If this man wants out then actually walk. Staying for the kids are only going to make it worse. But if there is even a hint that he still cares or loves his wife then by all means work it out, but if he's trying to play both fields with the wife and the lover, well all i have to say is he's going to lose out big time in the end. Because he's going to either slip up or he's going to eventually choose and well sometimes that lover loses out. All i can say is having another woman's man isn't all that its cracked up to be. He's a father with kids that will give that mistresses h**l and bring a lot of drama into you life. You will become a instant mother if you marry this man if he decides to divorce his wife and I have seen it where the kids don't take divorce well with their parents and will try to drive the other people in their parent's lives away so their parents will get back together. I say to your friend back off. Leave that mistress alone and try and work it out with the wifey. Because the truth will come out eventually and if that other woman leaves its not loss, she wasn't yours to have anyway.  

Answer 23

Never judge until u have been there. My heart goes out 2 ur friend. I used 2 judge until that bombshell hit my life.  I wonder how many judgmental wives on this page would give up on their husbands they have built a life with & love him so much if a woman knocked ur door 2morrow claiming she married him 1st & so u have no rights 2him & must give him up as she came 1st.  Ur feelings cant go away overnight.  Heck u still want him when hes cheating on u, but expect the other person not 2 feel anything instantly by way of right? U were innocent in this & also have a life of 3 years with him & love him.  Im not saying its right, but its far from easy.& wives always blame the woman NOT the man who has deceived both.  If he can lie 2 the wife like that why cant she accept he also done the same with the other poor woman?  I  recently found out my partner of 1.5yrs is married with kids. No I didnt know.  He stayed with me & my son 5 nights a week & xmas, new yrs, all holidays etc. Like ur friend claims not 2 love wife, just home 4 kids & didnt want 2 tell me 4fear of losing me.  What I would say 2 ur friend now is.  Only she knows what they shared & if he used her or has real feelings for her.  If thats the case, give marriage space it needs, will never work out anyway & u wont be 2 blame.  But if u love each other, & he truly unhappy he will have left.  The only reason for not telling u was because he was scared of losing u right?  Well u know now & here u still are.  But did he leave?  There is your answer,  Maybe not always because he doesnt love u, just not all men have the backbone to divorce & be effected finacially etc and be a responsible parent not living at home.  Many stay, & just continue 2 cheat their whole marriage with many because they dont have the backbone to start again and so waste their life, their wives life & wreck many lives of women they love, lie & let go off.  My experience would be 4 ur friend 2 let go.  She is heading for heartache. & unlike the wife there is no one there to catch her when her world falls in.  If he didnt leave when all came out.  He wont later. & she can live without him because unknowingly she has been up til now as he has never truly been hers x No one deserves this, the pain is undesribable.  I wish u well & feel ur pain x

Answer 24

Well that mean he lied to you about the fight he had with this wife becasue she doesnt know.

F""K YEAH IT IS WRONG TO LOVE SOMEONE THAT IS MARRIED>>>>> HE IS MARRIED... TAKEN... NOT YOURS TO LOVE. HE IS SPOKEN FOR.

No the so called love story you think you have. should not carry on. LEAVE HIM ALONE.  He doesnt love you becasue if he did he would not care what his wife thought.  You suck for trying to break up a marriage. LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...  Just how dare you.... How can you sleep at night

  

Answer 25

Yes, it's still wrong. 99% of guys who cheat on their wives tell the women they're cheating with that their wives don't understand them. That they're only staying together for the sake of the kids/the family/the house/the dog, etc. That they'll leave soon. And then they don't leave.

And what a charming guy--lying to his lover for 3 years? Yeah, that's a really promising start to a relationship! Lies, adultery, and deception. I'm surprised they don't make it into a heartwarming movie about the triumph of the human spirit... not.

Move on. If your "friend" didn't know that he was married (though it's hard to believe she didn't suspect), then she didn't behave wrongly by dating him. But now that she knows, the only right, moral course of action is to ditch him and his lying ***. He'll undoubtedly find some other naive woman to date for the next three years, while your "friend" can move on and find a guy who is not a lying cheating bum, and who is emotionally available.

Answer 26

Believe me the first thing they will tell you is they are staying for the children. Or they can not leave do to finances. Both are not true. That is a sure fire way to have the best of both worlds. Most people tend to blame the other woman for breaking up a marriage, but its the man doing it the whole time, feeding some woman a line of lies that reel her right in. No this should not go on, it should end as quickly as possiable.

Answer 27

Is it wrong to love a guy that is using you as a tool to get himself off?

Yea,  that is a no brain-er.

Answer 28

i think u should go ahead and love i mean u can't stop anyhow. i know the children will be sad but u can't force a couple together just because of them. he needs to get a divorce. i know there marriage means a lot but in the end when they get old they will regret it.

Answer 29

For me it wouldn't be just a question of whether it's wrong (and it is)... It'd also be about the fact that I could never really trust someone who had cheated on his wife, no matter what the "reasons" were...  And this particular guy has ALREADY  lied to his lover, so that's another sign he can't be trusted...

Answer 30

YES, it's very wrong to be in love with a married man. they are liars and cannot be trusted. they just want to have the best of both world. if he's not in love or happy with his wife,will he bother to go back to her.it is always the same old story in any affair.YES, your friend has to let go and move on. leave him as he is not sincere. what a love story and if he's a responsible man and father,he would not cheat not to mention for his children's sake....blah blah blah.leave him as it is even harder for the children and the wife.time will heal all, leave before everyone get hurt. guess she don't want be the other woman and it is not nice to be label as a home-wrecker.talk some sense into her to leave the married man . All the best.